6 Life Lessons I Learned From Powerlifting
Odd as it might seem that arbitrarily lifting an inanimate object from the floor to simply put it back down again for no other reason to see if one can do it can teach you a lot about life.
Well, it did for me.
A quick summary for those of you that would rather have a bullet point style of learning.
- You’re not as strong as you may initially think, yet that doesn’t mean you give up
- No one makes it very far on without help from others
- The competition isn’t yourself it’s the idea of yourself you hold in your head
- Rest and down time is crucial
- Failure is inevitable and what matters most is how you learn from it
- Becoming strong is as a choice, conversely so is staying weak
These might not mean much without some additional context.
Heck perhaps they speak to you on a deep level, I don’t know.
All that can be said is that over the next 1000 words or so you’ll find a little more depth and substance to each of the above.
Much like being strong, gaining a new perspective is also a choice to be made.
Hopefully a little of mine will help you, and in return perhaps you’ll be able to share a little of yours in the form of lessons you’ve learned from a hobby that carried over to life too.
1 – You’re not as strong as you may initially think, yet that doesn’t mean you give up
Sometimes you get under the bar and the second your body takes the strain from lifting it out of the rack you have an immediate realisation.
You’ve not got this, not even in the slightest.
At this point there is a choice, succumb to ego and give it the good old college try.
Alternately you can admit you need to build some more strength, and with that understanding you get several spotters and set yourself the goal of lowering the bar under control, then you may have the spotters help you up.
There is always the outside chance you go down and stand back up though.
Regardless of what happens the sharp jolt of reality that appears to make you question everything you thought you knew about yourself (from a strength perspective) is something crucial for development.
Lifting is about aiming for that little bit more, just like life.
2 – No one makes it very far on without help from others
In powerlifting you can make some great progress without nay formal coaching.
Plenty of people have, in the end though coaches are needed to take the game to the next level because those subtle nuances of preparing for lifts that are far above what is considered gym strong can’t be learned from those that have not lifted them or anything close.
While from a technical standpoint form can be much of a muchness and easily understood, the reality of being under a chunky load changes things.
Taking what is a weight that will require almost everything you have physically & mentally to lift is quite draining.
What’s more interesting is that when we look at trying to do it alone it becomes much harder.
It’s why asking for help is crucial.
Swallowing our pride and shifting our perspective from “how can I achieve this’ to ‘who can help me achieve this?’ is truly game changing.
Why struggle on your own when there’s a lot of people that have already learned lifting (or life) lessons that required them to pay the price of injury, or even heart break, why would you also want to pay that price too when you can instead take their wisdom and avoid such a toll.
3 – The competition isn’t yourself it’s the idea of yourself you hold in your head
Self image is an interesting thing.
When it comes to the sport of lifting weights from point A to point B and back again it’s easy to associate everything that you are with a number or perhaps a specific lift.
This is where people get stuck because as they begin to receive praise for their achievements they start to have those become ‘all that they are’ and even align their self worth with them.
True enough there can be a great boost in confidence from the praise that comes with hoisting what are weights they once thought unmovable, there is a darker side to it all.
What happens when those weights are missed in a training session or can’t be lifted again?
Identities can start to crumble and a lot of self doubt can creep in.
You see we’re not so much competing against ourselves and the weights we’re lifting, although we are in one sense, in the deeper perspective it’s our own self image that is really what we’ll have to content with.
Say your’e known as the ‘one with the good squat’ and on top of that you’re small too, so your strength or what is actually not that strong (180-200kg regular squat in the gym) is something you stay in the area of each training session because your ego needs to so it can feed the self imagine you now have.
Once people become ‘someone’ for say their lifting abilities or hobbies etc, they can go to some extreme lengths to live up to this ‘image’ or ‘idea’ of whom they are.
This leads to stagnation, plateau and eventually regression due to the law of accommodation.
Don’t get me wrong there’s nothing wrong with being proud of what you do.
It’s just worth remembering that what you do in regards to lifting is merely a part of who you are, it’s not your entire essence of reason for being.
Easy as it is to succumb to the allure of being knowing as ‘that powerlifting patriot’.
Just as in life, don’t get too hung up on a specific image, they will come and go so there’s little sense in getting so attached to what is only brief that exists in your own mind when you can choose a better one.
4 – Rest and down time is crucial
Chances are this sounds deceptively like common sense.
What’s funny is that the attitude of embracing the grind, always be hustling and work work work, renders this wonderful advice useless.
People don’t take rest.
When they do it’s because nature has forced them, in the fitness business we call this an injury.
Mother nature in her infinite wisdom gave us plenty of protection mechanisms ranging from the GTO, symptoms of fatigue/overreaching and even slight strains or niggles to warm up we’re about to break.
As you’d expect the dominant species on the planet to do, we ignore these and power on forwards.
I’m sure you know the rest, something snaps and requires a lot of time off.
Coupled with that ever stressful part of our existence called ‘life’ this often means we struggle to reach former heights.
Not because we lack the potential.
Rather it is due to our eagerness to return to ‘hard training’ and sticking our foot down on the gas pedal, which leads to another red line event and we then repeat this cycle until we’re much older and then reminisce stories of our glories back in our early 20’s before the injury occurred.
The same thing happens in regular life as well.
People burn out and break mentally, which unlike most physical injuries can literally be something you never recover from fully.
This is where taking time away form lifting and life is essential.
Booking a month off can seem scary and very costly, however the mental/emotional credit you put in your bank is well worth it and usually leads to an exponential growth of ones self which can have some very positive impacts on not only life, it can be great for training and business too.
Don’t fear time off, instead fear looking back and realising you never dared take any.
Trust me in the end that will be the one thing you have very little of and would give anything to have a few precious years back, so don’t waste them while their still in an abundant (or semi-abundant) amount.
5 – Failure is inevitable and what matters most is how you learn from it
When things go wrong and your best laid plans fall spectacularly to pieces leaving you with a hot mess where you expected success to be it can be quite a blow to the old ego.
Years of academy training wasted!
Sadly that is life and you will miss the total you wanted in a meet, or something will crop up and disrupt your magnum opus of an accumulation block.
Have a cry, make notes as to why it happened and who you can ask for help o avoid it happening again or what behaviours you need to change to become the sort of person who that doesn’t happen to again and leave that failure as a past lesson (and memory).
You see mistakes and failure are a part of life.
Even if you have the best mentors, coaches, listen and apply all the sage advice you are gifted, there will be some things that are just meant for you.
Understand that the moment of pain, suffering embarrassment, etc, they’re all your tuition fee.
You’ve paid the price to learn, now you’ll know that which you need to become better.
So long as you don’t make the same mistake again and waste the fee you’ve already paid you’re golden.
Don’t be a lifter that refuses to adapt.
There is a time and a place for all methods, protocols, ideas and philosophies, as is there a time for them to become a fond memory.
You’ll thank your younger self for this attitude when you’re arriving into your golden years with a smile, instead of a smoking husk that flew too close to the sun more often than was required.
6 – Becoming strong is as a choice, conversely so is staying weak
My last lesson that covers both lifting an ilife is a simple one.
It’s all about choice.
If you wish to lift 500lbs on say a deadlift, then you will no doubt need to train for it, unless you’re some kind of genetic wonder (these do exist to be fair).
Alternatively you can choose not to train for that, although you’ll need to accept the literal strength boost you’d receive will never be realised.
Just like in life if you choose to go for a promotion at work that might be a few stations above your current pay grade yet you know you can do the job and get it, you’ll reap the rewards, whereas if you procrastinate and ‘hold off’ until the most opportune moment then you’ll probably remain in the exact same place you’re currently in.
I’ve seen it happen so many times.
People choose what they are over what they could become.
If you’re ever presented with the opportunity to change or remain the same always take the leap of faith and go for change.
Reversion is always a potential option, however you’ll never be able to be what you could from your missed chances.
It took me a long time of stagnating in the realms of powerlifting to realise this because I got stuck and became fuelled by my egos need for importance, to be seen as someone… anyone that had a modicum of respect that wasn’t really respect (and from people that didn’t actually have any stock in my life either), it was entertainment for them and only fleeting, you’ll never please the mob so don’t even try because you’ll end up as it’s slave.
Choose freedom of self, be someone you can look at in the mirror with no regret or “I wish I’d….” attitude.
You owe it to yourself to become more.
It’s why I stepped away from PL, while I enjoyed it this hobby got taken as far as possible.
No sense in staying in the same place, strength can continually be built in different ways, so why not explore them all?
^^ If you’re a natural talent in a sport that might be a reason why you won’t drift away form it to be fair and is understandable.
As for the rest of us, enjoy our fitness hobbies to their fullest, gain what we can and then learn to love and enjoy something else to further grow in experience, wisdom, perspective and skill.
There you have it.
A few lessons from my limited powerlifting experience that also crossed over to life
Perhaps you’ve got some lessons from your chosen training endeavours that also have a great crossover to life, if so it’s be great to hear them so please do share them.
Enjoy,
Ross