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Misleading before and after photos.
Believe it or not you see these all the time.
The amazing results you see that are often claimed to have happened in such a short space of time can often be up to 10 years apart.
The same is true for the shots that people have angles the shit out of, filtered to within an inch of existence and sharpened so much that you’ll get cut just by gazing upon them.
Yep, after seeing plenty of colleagues/friends share their transformations photo’s to gain a nice hefty chunk of appreciation this elf us that have been in their lives for some years recognise the before picture, and it’s old.
These will of course pack the desired punch needed.
While the photos are all real, the story is misleading and that just bugs me.
If you’re going to compare a photo of yourself then 6-12months apart is a good idea as it will allow you to share the lessons you’ve learned in that time with your followers and fans with some honesty and for the purpose of helping them, not just boosting your likes.
This is of course not to say that a collage of your journey from day one isn’t worth of praise, oh no it is, so long as you exhaling how long the expanse of time covered from photo 1 to this present one is.
A year by year comparison will do many things:
1 – Show how progress is slow and change is gradual (for the most part)
2 – That consistency wins out in the end
3 – Change need applied effort (explained in lessons learned in each photo/reflection)
4 – Provide a true account of your journey, the progress/ & regress because that happens too
5 – Keeps you humble
We could list many more things here however I’d like to keep the one short for once.
In closing, be honest with your photos, your stories and worry less about trying to be impressive for the sake of it.
Share your knowledge, experience and let people know that you too struggled to get where you are and that one day, if that’s what they want, they can get there as well.
Fellow Trainers & coaches.
Your own experience will influence the way you train others.
We touched on this yesterday, and this is by no means a bad thing however it’s easy to fall in to the trap of giving everyone what you like to program or feel comfortable programming.
Again, while not necessarily a terrible thing, it is 100% a lazy thing.
Don’t get me wrong and think that this never happened my end because it did.
While you can indeed find reasons for falling back on something that is quick and easy to spam out in a program, such as people asking for free advice, when you have paying clients it’s not the most optimal thing to be doing.
Of course we will have various tools/protocols/programs stored in memory that we can draw on and guess what, they will work for a lot of people.
This usually happens because these adhere to some basic and fundamental principles of training.
If you take some time to look at the way people write programs you’ll notice a pattern in what they do.
One of mine is the classic 3-week wave, often varying the lift itself at the end of each micro block, this is because it keeps people consistent because sadly most can’t stick with the same things for too long due to their addiction to social media and the constant need for novel stimulus and dopamine hits.
While variety is a good and sometimes necessary thing, too much of it will not have you getting any form of decent result.
How do we know this?
Look round at people who attend multiple classes or hope from program to program weekly, they may have some degree of fitness however it’s a far cry from where their current potential is.
Now many will jump up an down championing “If it makes them happy leave them to it.” and these people are justified in saying that, however would you really be happy putting in what you feel is a tremendous amount of effort and not getting any real results?
Personally that is madness to me, why put in all that effort for no reward?
That’s like going to work and not getting paid.
You are by no means required to get results from your training/nutrition though, becoming strong, confident and have favourable body composition isn’t something you MUST do, yet if you’re going to put in the effort why not aim for that result?
The choice is yours on that one because that will come down to priorities.
You can train like a demon and do everything that will yield the above, yet you enjoy multiple alcoholic beverages each night so while you may build incredible fitness/strength you may still look like you don’t even train and hey, if you’re cool with that then fair play to you, fill your boots.
Fellow coaches/trainers, do you program based on what is needed of simply what you know and can fall back on easily?
Training ideally wants to focus on these three things:
- Keeping the goal the goal
- Enhancing the participants life
- Making that person better than they currently are (physically & mentally)
To do this we have many tools, these three principles will help you massively though:
- Waviness of load
- Specialised Variety
Feel free to look back on here and you’ll find plenty of programs I’ve thrown up over the years.
You’ll see my biases creeping through, all geared towards strength for the most part and of late gaining maximum benefit with minimum effort, so a high ROI (tertian on investment).
Any questions please leave them below.
Why do you try to be something you’re not?
As tempting as it is to play a role flawlessly, it’ll never be you and as a result you’ll always be on edge, anxious someone will find out and mercilessly unmask you for all to see.
Leaving you broken and wallowing in an endless flood of shame.
So here is my advice; stop pretending and defending that is the real you because it’s not.
The fitness industry is rife with this.
Online persona’s are very far removed from that of the one owned in reality, I’d even go as far as to say it may be the reason so many more people suffer from anxiety these days. The pressure of trying to live up to who they proclaim to be online is just too much, so these being anxious as an excuse not to go outside or be with people that might cause their house of cards to come crumbling down.
Like it or not we can’t change who we are.
This is not to say we can’t become a better person though, yet there still needs to be that acceptance of what the raw source material is.
If you’re a piece of shit to the very core then that’s your lot in life, however you can concisely choose not to do shitty things to others.
Perhaps you’re someone with a heart of gold who puts on a tough demeanour, stop it. You’re not going to win any prizes or acting like a tough person when that’s not you, yet you can learn some resilience.
Too many people talk of change, or being the best version of themselves and yet they ironically don’t even who they are.
How can you hope to change that which you don’t understand or even know?
As a person we need to embrace everything we are and simply be content with just being.
Once this hurdle is past us we can become more self aware.
The longer you hide behind who you say you are in the internet or pretend to be in real life, the longer you will suffer.
Don’t do that to yourself.
Go take a long hard look at the image of the person you portray, is that really you or the you you wish you were.
Acknowledge the raw materials at the essence of your heart and soul because you can’t change those for anything else what is there is there, you’ve got what you’ve got, however you can refine them over time.
Who know, perhaps that lump of coal if given enough time and the right pressure will oneway reveal itself to be something more, something that’s always been there, or maybe it won’t.
Regardless, you’ve got to take the first step by taking a good long look inwards.
You should investigate this thoroughly.
While chatting to a client last night the goal was to listen o their frustrations.
The didn’t feel for the effort they put in (to all aspects of their life) that they were getting their just desserts.
“My training is consistent.”
“My nutrition has been varied and clarions tracked.”
“My work has improved in both productivity and efficiency.”
“My life couldn’t be at a better point, and yet I’m not where I want to be, it’s so frustrating! I just start to think things will never change and just don’t know what the point is in keeping it all up.”
“I know things take time, I just want some hint it’s going to be worth it.”
A truly heartfelt frustration.
Often the effort we put into a great many things doesn’t yield the results we’d perhaps desire.
While this might not be fair it just is what it is.
I have friends who dislike that quote ‘it is what is is’, potentially because of it being the attitude of people who have become resigned to the deterministic philosophy due to their life experience in always knocking them down or the undeserving getting that which they feel should have been theirs.
It’s an understandable annoyance, yet these are also the same people that won’t outwardly express what is it hey want, or vocalise what is perhaps needed to be said to the right people, they often just sit and wait in the hope that they will get recognised just because they feel they should.
Sadly in this life if you want something you have to not only want it, work for it, or go for it, you must also make it known you want it by asking for it.
Fortune favours the bold or brave (depending now his quote you prefer).
It’s quite true. You’d be surprised what you can actually get simply by asking for it.
Anyway, back to the frustrated client above.
I was quite honest in telling them I didn’t know why they where not where they wanted to be or showered with glories praise, from an emotional standpoint that is.
From a training/empirical standpoint it’s been 3 weeks into their current training after they spent 5months being inconsistent and basically pissing about and making poor choices.
Yes I did tell them that directly because pandering isn’t what they needed and the simple truth is that you won’t often see much change in 3weeks, maybe 3 months or 3 years, however not 3 weeks. If you had dramatic change in such a short space of time, like say losing 2 stone I’d advise you go to the the doctor as you may have a terminal illness, yet this is the result people feel they deserve.
This was what prompted me to re-ask “What result/expectations do you feel you should have by now and why?, No, really, why? Why do you have the expectations you do?”.
Now for something a little bigger to consider, especially if you’ve felt/feel this way…..
Why out of all the people on this planet do you feel your the only one with these frustrations?
Why are you so special that the process should be different or miraculous?
Is it because you know someone who knows someone or you say it on social media?
Very few things in this life happen by accident. They are often an accumulation of minor, or major choices we’ve made or didn’t make and eventually they all come to fruition and result in X, Y or Z,which may or may not be your desired outcome.
As with any endeavour, even those that are truly frustrating, you must just accept that they will take time and perhaps be a tad more realistic with your expectations.
Frustration affects us all, yet like a lot of things they’re fleeting and not worth dwelling on.
Take a look around you, see that most other people are in the same boat and enjoy the journey because it’s rarely the destination that makes it worth while, it’s often the experiences you pick up along the way.
(Remember this, if people take the time to give you such time/feedback it’s because they care.)
Take a look around your gym or current place you train.
Now ask yourself, why are you there?
What emotions are driving you to become better than you currently are, if that is intact the case.
After spending one lifetime in the gym, a lot has been seen.
So many failures, stagnations and regressions.
Most people hit their initial goal, they have their first and seemingly last hoorah, only then to spend any further time after they let their starting success slip by trying to get back to ‘where they were’.
A nobel notion, yet it’s still a foolish one.
Speaking from experience, trying to achieve or relive past glories just isn’t wise because everything is different now.
What you did won’t happen in the same way again, you can than the law of accommodation and GAS (general adaptation syndrome) for that.
You see our bodies remember what we did, they adapt and make is so that if we end up doing the sam things again it is less metabolically costly, meaning the results won’t be on the same standard as they were before.
None of this finding what works for you gubbins because what works for you is simply what works RIGHT NOW.
Thing stop working for a reason.
That reason is noted above, you adapted.
While you might really enjoy something if it yields not further result then it’s largely if not entirely a waste of time.
You’d have no hesitation in telling a child that once all their juice is gone from the carton that continue to suckle on it won’t magically produce more juice, same is true for your training, the only difference is that because you’re an adult you seem to have forgotten that the rules of life apply to you.
Another pitfall in doing what we did before, training or nutrition wise, is that we remember how it was and if it’s not up to par we mentally berate ourselves.
This also gives us a reason to fail as well.
Hours then get put into finding all the excuses as to ‘why’ progress can no longer happen, essentially we chase sympathy and pity from others, rather than dragging ourselves forwards out of the mud.
Mud is warm in some cases I suppose, so the appeal is logical.
If the above resonates with you then instead of going back to do what you did before, bin it all off and take another route entirely.
No excuses, no bullshit, just action.
Ask yourself, why am I doing this?
For what reasons emotionally do I want to progress?
Why do I need to be better?
Fond memories of the past should remain as exactly that, memories.
You’re not writing a new chapter because that book is done and now up on a shelf somewhere, it’s time to write a new story instead of repeating and rehashing the same sad old one.
If variety is the spice of life then why not seek change.
Recently I’ve been watching My Hero Academia.
As some of you may know, anime is something quite close to my heart because of the many times it’s helped me escape from the world.
Many lessons have been learned from all these fictional characters (who were all created by real people).
This recent choice got me thinking about why we all love superheroes.
Is it due to their ability to overcome any obstacle?
Perhaps because of the many powers they have?
Maybe it is the overwhelming moral compass?
Or is it because of something else?
Chances are it’s all of these things and more, yet to me, there is something else that matters even more.
Even if it’s not real and only in the context of the show you’re watching, it’s the fact they give us hope.
Hope to overcome any odds.
To keep moving forward no matter the struggle.
They make us feel like we’re not totally helpless in this life and if we are to truly take a stand, to keep moving forward we will be okay in the end.
Heroes are who we wish we could be, yet in real life, true heroism doesn’t get the rewards of glorification it does in the fictional one.
Yet even with this being the case, and no one ever noticed or said thank you, why wouldn’t you want to be a hero?
Worth some thought.
You can choose your actions, your life is yours so you make the best you can of it regardless of the hand dealt to you.
I shall leave you with this: