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“I can tell you everything you NEED to know yet it won’t be what you WANT to know and because of this truth you’ll reject me.”
^^ I heard that recently, really made me think.
There are certain doors in our mind that will remain shut until the day we’re ready to open them, and to tell you the truth that day may never come.
In the sots you’ve perhaps read on here over the years you’ll find the topics vary somewhat however they are largely bis toward fitness/training.
Which makes sense as this is a fitness related page 😂
Everything that is shared has no ulterior motive.
It’s simply shared because it can be.
Some find things useful, others don’t, that’s life and in the end something that we will just have to accept because we’ve got no other choice.
Speaking of training, lately I’ve been doing a fair amount of higher rep work.
Things such as 10×20, or 20×10, 20 down to 1, 25×5 and other high volume madness.
After spending a fair few years doing no more than 6 reps on big lifts (often no more than 3 in reality) I felt there was a need for change because my mental strength has wained somewhat.
Yep, I got lazy and was merely running through the motions.
In most session to be fair and I used a lot of different logical justifications for this when in reality I was just being lazy because I’d lost the oomph and joy for lifting I once had.
This happens to us all because after the peak there will always be a cliff.
I fell off that cliff and while now at a higher low point the the previous one I was in (strength/ability wise etc), it was still a drop off from what was.
I didn’t want to accept the fact I now had another mountain to climb ahead of me.
Thus I warped reality to suit what I wanted to believe.
^^ Sounds familiar to you?
Anyway, back to the point.
We try to stay on the peak and begin to lift the same weights, perform the same movements, attempt to train at the same level of intensity all to remain on our self appointed pedestal.
Our ego won’t allow us to gracefully step down.
As such reality comes along and gives us a rather vicious push.
I get it you know.
It’s hard to accept that many things in life come in the form of peaks and valleys.
This is why these days I quite like this question:
‘Are you progressing?’
^^ or moving forwards, or learning, or adapting or whatever you wish to call it.
I also like to ask it 5 times because the first 2-4 are often hyperbole and the last one can yield the true/real answer.
Combine this with also asking ‘why?’ and you’ve got a potent mix for some internal growth and learning.
Be warned though because it’s not comfortable.
To truly accept all that you are and become who you want to be you must first accept all the things you are not and that you pretend to be all to keep up appearances.
^^ That shit is hard.
So my dear readers, if you’ve made it this far I applaud you.
It’s fair to say I ramble on a fair bit.
Now that you are here though ask yourself the following three questions:
– Am I really progressing?
– What do I not address (in life, training etc) and why?
– Is this really me or just what I think I should be?
If you’re up for it leave your answers in the comments section below with they all important ‘why’.
If you dislike an objective view of things then you best stop reading.
You won’t be judged, shamed or have your profile smeared.
Yet if you are someone interested in hearing a few bitter pills to swallow then please continue on.
I’ve heard many a conversation in many a gym over the years.
In the last decade though there has been an underlying tone in a lot of them; life, the world or however you describe it seems to owe ‘them’ (the collective them, as in everyone) something.
The world, people, what/whoever doesn’t own you jack shit.
In this life while there are those born with a silver spoon in far better stead than others and are presented all the opportunities, that doesn’t mean that just because you haven’t had this that you’re owed something.
People have become very weak-minded these days.
Take the example above, I’m sure you know someone who has it all.
They never asked for it all, they just happened to be one of those few who happened to get it due to the hard work and sacrifice of someone in their daily at some point.
Same will be true for your progeny.
Whatever you achieve and the foundations you lay will be used but hem to get a better foothold in life.
The people of the 20’s, 30’s, 40’s all did this for their young.
Then there was a time of bountiful harvests, follow day people gaining the attitude of being entitled and this is where things started to go wrong.
Sadly we are entitled to nothing in this life.
To be alive and have things as good as we have them is already a gift.
Don’t believe me?
If you’re reading this then I’d say you’ve already got it better than some who either will never have the chance to use modern technologies or others who have had their basic humans rights stripped away, not naming any northern countries or anything.
This is why I love fitness.
It keeps you humble because you don’t get results without effort, sacrifice and time given to the iron gods.
True enough some people have better genetics.
If you feel yours are lacking and that you should have better ones then I truly hope that txt time you choose to be born of better parents.
Think back to school, you had all the gifted kids and most of them now will be nothing more than a memory because they wasted the 3 space head start they had and rested on their laurels.
Anyone who gets a head start in life while lucky isn’t guaranteed success because the world doesn’t owe it to them, remember that.
So my dear friends, have you ever felt that you deserve more than you have?
That you’re owed something for nothing because reasons.
Sorry buttercup, you ain’t.
Neither am I.
We may not ever get what we feel we deserve, yet is what we feel we deserve actually what we are due? – Now there is a good thought.
Do what you can without the thought of reward just because you can.
In the end if you’ve given whatever you see as a priority everything you have to give you’ll probably be satisfied with what you have in the end.
Don’t except the world to cater to you for nothing.
Life doesn’t work that way for most of us.
Also if you’ve been one of the few to start severals steps ahead of the rest I am happy for you, truly. Now use that opportunity to do great things and don’t fuck it up.
To everyone else I will say one last thing….
There’s always a bigger fish.
Did you know you’ll never be good at the things you don’t do.
I know right, quite the mind blowing sentence.
Funny thing is this is something a lot of people actually forget or just don’t seem to be aware of.
When it comes to fitness, or movement as a whole the use/disuse principle is quite really one people should keep in the back of their mind at all times.
If you are looking at having a certain set of skills they need to be practiced.
^^Once you acquire the skills maintaining them (depending on how high a level you want to retain) can take minimal effort.
Same goes for an area you’re aiming to improve or build upon, it needs some attention. 👀
All that being said, you’ve also got to accept there may be some form of sacrifice of what you have to gain what you want.
The cosmic balance must be maintained as it were. ♟
I like to think of it like spinning plates.
You can spin only so many as one time, those will be the ones that are looking good yet there will be some that are slowing, others that are about to topple and a few that are already in free fall, that’s just life.
Using fitness as an example.
You are rather unlikely to bench press 500lbs while also being able to run a sub 5min mile pace on a marathon.
True enough it’s not an impossible task to achieve, however it’s just not probable or reasonable for many.
In our mind we see ourselves at our peak or what was our last peak of fitness, this leaves us with a hefty dose of cognitive dissonance in regards to our abilities.
You’ll also find it’s another reason people won’t push themselves out of their comfort zones and be humbled.
Unless it’s proven it can be ignored. 🤔
Many would rather live in blissful ignorance than uncomfortable awareness.
Sad but very true.
So to wrap up this little mid morning musing take some time to be honest with yourself.
What areas do you need to work on more than you do?
^^This can be in relation to fitness, life, business and more.
Give it some thought.
Are you in control of your emotions or are they in control of you?
Seems like a simple enough question to answer, it’s not.
You’d be surprised how many folk don’t really want to delve in to deep in to the emotional dregs that are weighing them down to find out which is the one causing all the other to pile up.
It’s surprisingly easy o know if someone is ruled by logic or feeling in a situation.
They either respond (logical) or they react (emotional).
Their tone of voice, pace, pitch, words spoken and often posture will give this away, not to mention some people faces just can’t lie.
Personally I’m like this, if something is utter tripe my face will let my fellow chatter companion know.
Another interesting bit of information about emotional reactions; it happens because it’s our egos way of protecting itself from death.
Yep, our ego fears its own death most.
Passional emotional reactions can usually end up linked to this, along with beliefs, values and occasionally a persons self proclaimed identity.
Don’t get me wrong, we need such things.
Without emotion we’d be no better than machines.
That being said, they can get in the way and control people for many years, a lifetime in some cases.
We link emotion to everything we do, literally
Once you can understand how and more importantly why then you will have a very powerful set of skills to help not only yourself but countless others as well.
Let us take food for example.
You will have a specific food that links to a specific emotion/feeling and when you’re not getting said emotion/feeling you will dive straight into the cupboard/fridge/freezer to pull out your crutch for that hit of instant gratification & feeling.
We subconsciously know this as well.
Why else do you think we ask people if they feel better after they’ve eaten?
We don’t ask them – “Are you nutritionally sustained from your meal?”.
No, we ask them how they feel and it they feel that they need any more or anything else.
Listening to the way people talk is an incredible skill.
Allowing each word to settle in your mind while also observing all the idiosyncrasies can really help you understand a person.
First though you must understand yourself.
“Because, if you can’t love yourself how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?Can I get an Amen?” – RuPaul
Give some though to the above, are you in control of your emotions or re they in control of you?
I’ve never seen a butterfly with wings to two different colours before.
One electric blue & one magenta.
I wanted it to land so I could admire it because rare things should always be admired.
Alas it only lingered for a moment before disappearing amount the leafs of a tree.
Strange morning really.
How many days per week should you train?
2, 3, 4, 5, 6, all of them?
Honestly it doesn’t really matter too much so long as your consistent.
You know there are people who hit the gym only twice a week and make more progress than those who frequent it 6 days and train twice per day.
It comes down to the premise of quality or quantity.
Technically you need both.
I know, it’s quite irritating.
The more quality you can put out the better progress you will make, that’s just how it goes, however no one starts off being able to do that, despite what fitness guy’s and influencers tell you.
Back in the day my philosophy for my own training was very much about all or nothing, luckily this didn’t extend to my clients and was purely pushed on myself.
Ironically many clients made great progress on 2-3 days of training per week.
Then there was me, slogging it away with multiple gym sessions, essentially every day and being honest there was very little to show for it.
When you keep digging in to your training tanks your body stops adapting and overcoming the stimulus, it merely learns to survive at any cost.
You will also find your body becomes more efficient.
Yep, it’s clever like that, so it ends up using less energy, especially when you place more demand on it.
Less resources become available for growth, progress and overall health and eventually the wheels fall of the wagon and you get hurt.
Then comes the mental anguish.
Along with the realisation that you’d become quite addicted to the gym, and despite all your ‘hard work’ you’ve very little to show for it.
I speak from experience on this one.
Even though personally I;ve always been lean and looked in shape (by the standards of an average person), I was causing a lot of internal damage and just not making the progress I felt I deserved or should have been.
Even knowing everything I knew, hubris got in the way.
Training should enhance our lives, not detract or dictate it.
If you find yourself binning off social events, or actually living because you MUST get to the gym less you miss your training then you’ve got a problem.
Seriously, it’s quite a big problem as well.
Addiction, regardless of the form is still addiction and at some point it goes pas the point of being helpful or even good for you and becomes toxic.
How does the old saying go – The poisons in the dose.
Or is it – The dose makes the poison.
Either way, I’m sure you get it.
I understand though, why you end up in this place.
We live in a very shallow and superficial world.
Both women & men are only as valuable as what they have to offer in regards to the majorities perception of them.
Better looking people get more opportunities in life, many may disagree, however it’s called the ‘Halo Affect’, a very real thing.
I spoke to a friend recently about this and they got rather put out by it and reacted emotionally as they don’t want people to think they only did well because of their looks, yet that is the exact reason they got offered as many opportunities as they did.
All of this brings us back to how many days we should train per week.
2 or 7, multiple times a day or just once.
My advice, 2-4 times per week is plenty for everyone.
These days I’d urge people to look at doing 2 gym sessions a week.
If you feel the need to doing something daily and move, that’s not a bad thing as you can pick something to practice, be that 20min of yoga, kettlebell work, bodyweight skill or something else entirely.
There are many many options available to us and in all honesty you can do which ever you enjoy the most.
Just beware the little gym monster of addiction.
It sits on your shoulder and tells you that you’ll never be good enough, lean enough, big enough, strong enough, or worthy.
When you start having these thoughts it’s time to step back from the gym and reduce training frequency before it gets worse.
Just something to remember.