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6 Reasons why you don’t have to please everyone.

In our modern world where everyone folds faster than a poor hand at poker trying to gain a modicum of approval from the masses, here are some reasons not to bother.

Be warned, they’re quite logical and my offend the weak minded.

1 – Some people are idiots.

Yep, some people are just not worth wasting time with because they’re idiots and won’t ever get it.

2 – Pleasing everyone is far too draining.

Take away the facet of the ‘energy vampires’ of the world and you’ll still find i’s exhausting trying to make everyone happy, so just don’t bother.

3 – It often goes unappreciated.

Many these days are far too expectant, as such they feel entitled to be made to feel all warm and fuzzy.

A foolish thought, like respect and many other things we’d do well to remember that we must earn good things in this life because we’re not entitled to anything.

4 – You waste your time.

Instead of trying to gain scraps from people that don’t matter in the grand scheme of things, try focusing on helping those tho really need your valuable time.

5 – Self respect.

I’ve seen many a person sink rather low to please others, dragging down their standards, abilities and gifts to make others feel better.

Stop it, by all means bring others up and extend a helping hand, however don’t lower yourself just to make someone else feel less shit about the results of their poor life choices.

6 – Some people are idiots.

Since many forget this one it warranted a second mention.

💪💪💪

Enjoy,
Ross

The real number 6 –

People pleasers are just irritating humans in general and come across as desperate, don’t be one of them.

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Wait, you don’t want to be stronger?

“I’m not really interesting in getting strong or building much muscle, I just want to be a bit fitter and more toned.”
 
Usually when I hear those words I like to add in this –
 
“Ah, your a prime candidate for a darwin award then.”
 
While it’s fair that people may not wish to train to build strength and enhance their lean body mass, those people are stupid.
 
Yep you read that correctly.
 
Now unless said person is competing in a weight category based sport or has literally made out their genetic potential for strength that helps in their sports, those are the exceptions.
 
For everyone else in this world you’d do well to get stronger & build lean mass.
 
Apart from the numerous benefits to health, life and overall mental wellbeing you gain from the two things above, you’re also able to have more overall freedom in your life too.
 
Not needed to call on people for help moving things.
 
Being more robust so that injuries due to impact of accidents are reduced.
 
Maintaining your ability to move as you did in your formative years, all great additional benefits.
 
It always bothers me when people claim they don’t wish to get stronger or add lean body mass, like why wouldn’t you want those things?
 
Why wouldn’t you want to be better than you currently are?
 
Yes, again I just said something that would be considered offensive because it insinuates that people are not good enough as they are, which in a physical/health sense they usually aren’t.
 
Besides, being weak and skinny fat sucks major balls.
 
You may look acceptable in clothing yet strip that away and behold, Mumm Ra.
 
If you are one of these people I truly would love for you to share you opinions and views as to why you feel as you do.
 
Not to berate or bring you down, it’s to understand because in my narrow view of the world strength/LBM makes everything better and why someone wouldn’t want that is truly baffling.
 
Enjoy,
Ross

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Pet Health VS Your Health

You’d spend thousands on your pets to ensure they have the best health, quality of food and quality of life.

Why on earth won’t you invest that same amount on yourself?

People are truly weird in that regard.

Now I can understand that for some their pets are like their children, or as many say “They’re my babies.”.

Our human need for unconditional love and something to depend on/need us to provide a sense of purpose is quite the interesting trait.

You’ll easily find people who willingly and without hesitation spend more money on they pets than themselves.

While we can of course invest our hard earned cash however we choose why not invest it in our own longevity?

Being brutally honest, pets will die long before you do.

Well, unless you have a turtle or a parrot, they seem to live forever.

Knowing this you’d do well to put at least a matched effort in to your own wellbeing as you would theirs.

Take this for example –

Your pet gets fat, what do you do?

Go to the vet and have them advise you to feed the animal less, exercise it more and get it’s health markers back to normal.

You do this with unquestioning resolve.

Have a human Dr say the same to you and you get butt hurt because they fat shamed you and just because your BMI is over where it should be that doesn’t mean you’re not healthy.

*Face palm.

While that is potentially true, elevated BMI’s are still a warning, regardless is yours is due to excessive body fat or muscle.

You see in regards to your build you can only support so much weight on your frame before it becomes an issue, regardless.

Back to the point, put in as much effort to keeping yourself in tip top shape as you would your beloved pets.

Or don’t because at this stage in my life I’ve honestly had enough of the general idiocy of the world and feel that if people wish to lead a life that shortens their time here then they can fill their boots.

Enjoy,
Ross

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The worlds most simple (well, one of) warm up ever.

It covers everything you need.
 
– Inchworm
– Goblet Squat
– Inverted Row
 
This will get you fired up for a session in a GPP sense.
 
Now most people start to wonder about reps, in all honesty the options are endless, for me though I will look at hitting 100 total reps (with crisp form) in the GS/IR, the IW about 25-50 as 100 of those is horrid.
 
Here is how it might look: 10min of
 
– Inchworm x5
– Goblet Squat x10
– Inverted Row x10
 
Or perhaps this: 10min of
 
– Inchworm x10
– Goblet Squat x20
– Inverted Row x20
 
Maybe even this: 10min of
 
– Inchworm 1-2-3
– Goblet Squat x2-3-5
– Inverted Row x2-3-5
 
Nothing fancy, just 3 movements a lot of people need.
 
Enjoy,
Ross

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More Reflection from a Fledgeling

My friends of PT/Coaching ilk, some reflective thoughts for you.
 
Are you fuelling your ego or enriching your soul?
 
Looking back through some old programming I’ve done over the years for people when I was far more green to the industry I can spot the exact moment things went to shit.
 
By that I mean that my programming got lazy.
 
Excuses of –
 
“They don’t want to change enough.”
“It’s t heir attitude.”
“We must stick with XYZ because… reasons.”
 
All creeping in to cover up the truth, I got bored because things got hard.
 
Once things got hard and a choice was presented:
 
– Talk honestly & openly with the client about moving forwards meaning more time, effort and energy needed to be spent for the greater good of the person in front of me
 
– Spam out arbitrary programs for profit and an easy life
 
Some people got the former, many got the latter.
 
Those privy to the first were good long term clients and got a decent amount of progress, the rest in the latter camp made some progress however it wasn’t what it could have been.
 
That was over a decade ago.
 
It was at that time I made the conscious choice to focus on the quality of service, and giving people an experience that would enrich their lives, over just fleshing out my bank balance.
 
Yes, my profits took a hit. A massive hit, yet it was worth it.
 
This is why not you’ll find if you ask me for a program I will give it to you for free, because I can and it’s the right thing to do.
 
If you require coaching however, well that comes at a rather hefty price.
 
As PT’s it’s easy to fall into the trap of dishing out templates, throwing a google search out there and pilfering a program for someone else and claiming it as your own.
 
We’ve all done it, because it’s easy.
 
Making the commitment to producing high quality work is a tall order that requires a lot of your energy invested into it.
 
This is where the emption of going down the easy path sinks it’s claws into many a young trainer, even some experienced ones too, and the only ones who suffer are the clients that pay their hard earned cash for a result/service/product.
 
By suer I mean they don’t get the best results/outcome/experience.
 
This is why PT gets a bad rap.
 
Most are no better than used cars salesmen.
 
Fellow PT’s….
 
You wouldn’t want to invest in a something lacking substance (it’s why you won’t hire a coach, you know most are full of shit because it’s a reflection of your own self you’d rather ignore), yet you’ll sell/give exactly that to your clients.
 
Harsh as this sounds it comes from experience.
 
Letting people down isn’t what we want for anyone, yet it happens because of our inability to say these very simple words:
 
“I’ve reached my limit.”
 
You see we can only take people as far as we know how, to go further we need to invest more in our education and abilities, at great cost to ourselves I might add (financially & physically).
 
That being said, this is how we can take everyone to the next level, that is if you wish to work with those beyond the level of beginner and stop claiming your ultimate success in your business is the result of your skills and not randomness and the fact you’re exploiting the ‘beginner gains’ phenomenon.
 
As such we can’t lament what is done, it’s done.
 
No point in being sorry, instead we must be better.
 
Take a look at your programming and how you conduct yourself as a PT/coach, are you the coach you want to be or a mere shadow of it?
 
Make the choice to be better now and in the long run it’ll all be worth it.
 
Enjoy,
Ross

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A Training Protocol too simple to hurt as much as it does.

Morning Y’all,
 
Being a little bit of a nerd I personally enjoy the principles behind things not everyone wants that, so why not just get straight to the good stuff 💪
 
Protocol 1 – 6-12-25
 
A classic from Charles Poliquin.
 
Choose three movements.
 
Do a set of 6 for the first, 12 for the second & 25 for the third to fully decimate a muscle group/area.
 
Examples for each movement pattern:
 
Do 2-3 sets of the following with 2-4min rest after A3.
 
Push –
A1 – Weighted Dip x6
A2 – Close Grip Canadian Press x12
A3 – TRX Tiger-Bend x25
 
Pull –
A1 – Weighted Ring Chin Up x6
A2 – T-bar Row x12
A3 – Face Pull x25
 
Squat –
A1 – Front Squat x6
A2 – Squat (close stance, heels raised – cyclist squat) x12
A3 – Duck Stance Leg Press x25
 
Hinge –
A1 – Snatch Grip Deficit Deadlift x6
A2 – RDL x12
A3 – Prone Hamstring Curl (neutral feet) x25
 
If you do this correctly you will find a drop of in loading % of each set after 2, this usually because at our top weights we’ve got 1-2 good sets in us, then things start to fatigue so a reduction in load of 5-10% is sensible.
 
Enjoy,
Ross

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McFly wasn’t the only one lacking it…

There is something that all those who give up have in common. 

They lack discipline.

When training is no longer fun, the initial wave of motivation has worn off and they realise their trainer was entertaining them instead of actually training them it can leave many deflated.

Sadly there can be no lessons without a cost. 

Well, unless you heed the words above in which case you’ll save a lot of money and wasted time. 

The shine of training wears off in anywhere from 1-3 years.

Believe it or not this isn’t hyperbole, it’s the truth. 

As such you need to create the habit of discipline.

Like anything it’s a skill and need practice to master. 

Stephen king used to set aside 4 hours to write according to a little book I read based on how he writes. 

Initially this wasn’t his natural ‘flow’ time because such a thing doesn’t just happen on a whim, it’s created. 

There was conscious sacrifice and the reward was skill. 

You see success is about how much you’re willing to give (of yourself) and what you’re willing to give away (creature comforts). 

There is always a price to pay, the question is a can you afford it?

Rather can you afford not to pay it if you truly want to become something more than you currently are, that is the real question here. 

How many times have you given up on something, not because of any cosmic catastrophe or unforeseen circumstance, just because you gave in to the weight of it?

^^ Give this some thought. 

You don’t have to want anything in life, yet if you do then you’ll find having an iron clad discipline will come in handy. 

Enjoy, 

Ross 

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Your Excuse, Your Failure

“It gets harder as you get older.”
 
Well yes, but actually no.
 
This is something I’ve heard no less than a dozen times since January the 1st, and from people in their 30’s.
 
Okay, your 30, not dead and the reason you’ve gained fat, lost muscle and feel shit about yourself is because you allowed it to happen because life got comfortable.
 
Yep, it’s all on you, the universe or other cosmic entity just went with the choices you decide to make.
 
Age, like having kids or some phantom/elf diagnosed medical condition, is the perfect excuse for people to hide behind because to question it will have you almost burned at the steak.
 
In full candour, life it simply hard there are very few breaks given and the struggle is real.
 
In this knowledge you have two real choices:
 
1 – Do the best you can with what you’ve been given
2 – Hide behind excuses like everyone else
 
There isn’t much more to it really.
 
Yes barriers, unfortunate events and general shit will crop up, that is inevitable however it’s how you choose to deal with it that counts.
 
Excuse or effort, it’s your call.
 
Don’t get me wrong, I’m far from free of the above because so many excuses have come from my lips, so well thought out that I almost even convinced myself of their validity and who they truly stopped me moving forwards.
 
This of course was all bullshit, they were just excuses that gave me a reason to give up and not feel too bad about it when the truth of the matter was so much simpler.
 
It wasn’t important enough to me.
 
That is literally what it comes down to, and in addition to that I learned from a very young age that telling people this, that things or they didn’t matter went down like a lead ballon. So I started making excuses that would protect everyone and give me an out.
 
All bullshit really and as I got older and less worried about the world and the people in it I found my attitude evolved into what it is now –
 
‘I will tell you the truth regardless, you can choose to response or react because I’m done.’
 
Excuses come in may shapes and sizes, as do our legitimate barriers/obstacles.
 
There is one crucial difference between them though, a barrier/obstacle will have options to overcome it and still slow you to move forwards, even if slowly, essentially they simply slow you down and will eventually no longer be an issue/consideration.
 
An excuse on the other hand will be there forever because you’re allowing it to be there because you’ve created it and to remove it will involve you being 100% honest with yourself in the fact that you put it there to sabotage yourself and give you a reason to fail, quite, give up and stay weak or helpless.
 
Excuse or effort, your choice.
 
If it really means something to you then you’ll find a way, like life.
 
Life will always find a way to keep growing, you should too.
 
Enjoy,
Ross

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The Mask

Beards are to men what makeup is to women.

A mask to hide behind. 

We all try to create an image, to be someone, something else. 

There are many reasons for this. 

Take myself as the arbitrary example –

Always in amy kit, maintains a lean muscular physique year round, has an insatiable need to learn new skills. 

This says one thing: it’s all about me & making myself happy because no one else will, nor should they. 

Selfish, 100%. 

Then again, it’s called your life for a reason.

As such you’re free to create the mask you find more pleasing to wear that gave you the desired results you’d not admit you really want.

Maybe it’s status/respect, and this is why you always burt the most expensive things.

Perhaps it’s intimidation, hence the beard and excess bulk (fat) that keeps people from getting up in your grill. 

You might nail all you social media poses and have your makeup on point so that you get all the attention and feel pretty, valued, wanted.

Regardless of what we get, there is always a reason why we desire such responses.

What does your image say about you?

More importantly, how does it make you feel?

Or rather, why do you want to feel that way?

Give this some honest thought because there is nothing wrong with desiring a specific outcome, or wanting to feel a certain way as the result of your appearance, despite those that say there is.

Please do leave your thoughts below.

Enjoy,
Ross 

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9 Magical Methods to Physical Progress in 2020

Only kidding, these aren’t magical.
 
They will work though provided you put in the effort and stop making excuses like you have every year since you found out that excuses kept you safe.
 
Harsh as it sounds people fail all the time.
 
Mostly due to their own ineptitude and lack of willing.
 
You see if you need a reason to do something you’ll find it, regardless of how monumental the task you will find the exact means you need to justify the end.
 
Keeping this in mind here are your 9 Magical Methods 💪
 
1 – Public Shame
 
Make your intentions loud & clear for all to hear.
 
You’d also find that a very public penalty or forfeit may keep your head in the game, something like you will buy all your best friends clothing for an entire year.
 
^ Have this written up in a contract that is legally binding, honestly don’t fuck about, actually have a price to pay if you fail because talk of punishment is cheap, make it a real possibility.
 
2 – Hire a Professional
 
Pay someone to get you to your goal, and pay someone that is expensive, literally at the top end of the price scale.
 
So much so that it requires you to sacrifice various creature comforts and habits to pay for their services, make your sacrifice mean something so that if you fail you’ll know you’ve let yourself down.
 
3 – Ask children for their opinions
 
Yep, kids are the best critics because they tell the truth.
 
If you’re fat a child will tell you, same goes for being ugly, having bad hygiene or sucking at sport.
 
These unforgiving little buggers are the ones you want to listen to, not people your own age because chances they’re also in a sad state as well and will tell you what you want to hear, not what you need to hear.
 
4 – Get Upset/Offended
 
Yep, listen to all the things that evoke strong emotions and make you feel uncomfortable because you will always move away from pain.
 
Being fitness related of course, if people are talking lumps out of your character for no reason then high 5 them with a metal chair.
 
5 – Stop acting like a child
 
This means preparing meals from scratch, taking responsibility for yourself and admitting that it’s no one else fault except your own.
 
You’re not in control of everything in your life, yet one aspect you can take charge in is your physical state, so do it.
 
6 – Get new friends
 
Your old fiends are holding you back because you’re ‘one of them’.
 
Look at the 5 people closest to you, if they’re all carrying execs body fat, unhealthy, excuse making machine then chances are you will be as well.
 
Find people that make you better not hold you back.
 
7 – Remove all food temptations from your home
 
Secret eating is common.
 
I knew a chap who would always talk about how clean he was eating yet still held quite the impressive amount of belly fat.
 
Despite his bluster his partner found all his empty chocolate bar wrappers kidding down the side of the bed and made everyone aware in a hilarious social media shaming.
 
Don’t be the person that lies because you only hurt yourself in the long run by doing so.
 
If you genuinely struggle and need help them please ask for it.
 
8 – Find people to help
 
As mentioned above, asking for help is crucial in success.
 
It’s not weak, it’s not bad, it’s a bloody good idea.
 
Finding a group of people that will help pull you up to higher standards is the way forwards, it will be tough, you’ll mentally feel like the worst person in the room because you probably are.
 
Even if faced with this fact don’t crump like a wet richmond biscuit in tetley tea, you’re worth so much more than that.
 
Have the same level of faith in yourself that some of us have in you and take the leap, don’t wait and think, just take it.
 
9 – Listen to people that have been where you are
 
You’re not along you know.
 
A lot of people struggle mentally because of their physical state.
 
It is very much my belief that we live in a superficial world, and deep down I feel you know this too.
 
As such people need to find a place they’re physically happy before they can make any real progress mentally, this is also confirmed by the science too, physically healthier people suffer less mental strife (better balance hormones, neurotransmitters, etc).
 
Find people to talk to that have made the journey already.
 
Listen to their story, hear their struggle, how they got through it and what it meant to them in the end.
 
You see it’s not being a physical specimen that we truly desire, it’s what comes after that, this is the real goal.
 
Self confidence & knowing we’re okay.
 
^ That’s what people want.
 
None of the above is magical, it is however all relevant.
 
You should investigate this thoroughly.
 
Enjoy,
Ross

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