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Do you wonder what your ‘mid-life crisis’ is going to look like?
Could it end up being the classic mixture of getting tattoos, a entirely new wardrobe to regain lost rebellious youth and maybe a bike too.
I guess you could be one of those who leaves their partner, home and comfortable life for someone 10+ years younger and partying on school nights.
Working in fitness you’ll find you see this happen a lot.
People getting results and aesthetic change often being the catalyst.
While we say looks don’t matter they do, as does the attention that comes with them.
True enough some very unique people get a lot attention and yet they never seem to hold on to a persona or settle down.
The sad reason why is because such people are often seen as a fetish, you know something that you want to do behind closed doors yet wouldn’t want to be seen in the light of day with.
This doesn’t mean they’re a bad person or not worth anything else other than being a fetish, however that’s just how it goes.
Sadly I’ve seen it happen many many times over.
Same is true for those who once upon a time were the object of everyones desire & attention, able to pick and choose at will.
Yea that fades over time and they too are cast to the margin bin. From all perspectives it can be quite the knock to a persons confidence.
It won’t change anytime soon and as such the mid-life crisis will always be a thing.
They usually reignite some of the embers of attention that was once a roaring flame, and to some that’s enough, for now.
Of course this too will die out eventually.
Once that happens you’ll be left with a bike you never ride, tattoos that you don’t like and a head full of bad memories.
I’m sure you know someone who has had, or perhaps is going through this time in their life, maybe it all started when they began going to the gym.
Who knows, just some food for thought.
If you do happen across people in this situation try to understand it from their point of view and more importantly why they feel as they do.
Knowing how someone feels can be the biggest step in helping them, especially if you get it too.
Hopefully it will also help you avoid the same pitfall.
Sharing our experience, knowledge and understanding is all many of us can do to help others grow.
“I can tell you everything you NEED to know yet it won’t be what you WANT to know and because of this truth you’ll reject me.”
^^ I heard that recently, really made me think.
There are certain doors in our mind that will remain shut until the day we’re ready to open them, and to tell you the truth that day may never come.
In the sots you’ve perhaps read on here over the years you’ll find the topics vary somewhat however they are largely bis toward fitness/training.
Which makes sense as this is a fitness related page 😂
Everything that is shared has no ulterior motive.
It’s simply shared because it can be.
Some find things useful, others don’t, that’s life and in the end something that we will just have to accept because we’ve got no other choice.
Speaking of training, lately I’ve been doing a fair amount of higher rep work.
Things such as 10×20, or 20×10, 20 down to 1, 25×5 and other high volume madness.
After spending a fair few years doing no more than 6 reps on big lifts (often no more than 3 in reality) I felt there was a need for change because my mental strength has wained somewhat.
Yep, I got lazy and was merely running through the motions.
In most session to be fair and I used a lot of different logical justifications for this when in reality I was just being lazy because I’d lost the oomph and joy for lifting I once had.
This happens to us all because after the peak there will always be a cliff.
I fell off that cliff and while now at a higher low point the the previous one I was in (strength/ability wise etc), it was still a drop off from what was.
I didn’t want to accept the fact I now had another mountain to climb ahead of me.
Thus I warped reality to suit what I wanted to believe.
^^ Sounds familiar to you?
Anyway, back to the point.
We try to stay on the peak and begin to lift the same weights, perform the same movements, attempt to train at the same level of intensity all to remain on our self appointed pedestal.
Our ego won’t allow us to gracefully step down.
As such reality comes along and gives us a rather vicious push.
I get it you know.
It’s hard to accept that many things in life come in the form of peaks and valleys.
This is why these days I quite like this question:
‘Are you progressing?’
^^ or moving forwards, or learning, or adapting or whatever you wish to call it.
I also like to ask it 5 times because the first 2-4 are often hyperbole and the last one can yield the true/real answer.
Combine this with also asking ‘why?’ and you’ve got a potent mix for some internal growth and learning.
Be warned though because it’s not comfortable.
To truly accept all that you are and become who you want to be you must first accept all the things you are not and that you pretend to be all to keep up appearances.
^^ That shit is hard.
So my dear readers, if you’ve made it this far I applaud you.
It’s fair to say I ramble on a fair bit.
Now that you are here though ask yourself the following three questions:
– Am I really progressing?
– What do I not address (in life, training etc) and why?
– Is this really me or just what I think I should be?
If you’re up for it leave your answers in the comments section below with they all important ‘why’.
Are you in control of your emotions or are they in control of you?
Seems like a simple enough question to answer, it’s not.
You’d be surprised how many folk don’t really want to delve in to deep in to the emotional dregs that are weighing them down to find out which is the one causing all the other to pile up.
It’s surprisingly easy o know if someone is ruled by logic or feeling in a situation.
They either respond (logical) or they react (emotional).
Their tone of voice, pace, pitch, words spoken and often posture will give this away, not to mention some people faces just can’t lie.
Personally I’m like this, if something is utter tripe my face will let my fellow chatter companion know.
Another interesting bit of information about emotional reactions; it happens because it’s our egos way of protecting itself from death.
Yep, our ego fears its own death most.
Passional emotional reactions can usually end up linked to this, along with beliefs, values and occasionally a persons self proclaimed identity.
Don’t get me wrong, we need such things.
Without emotion we’d be no better than machines.
That being said, they can get in the way and control people for many years, a lifetime in some cases.
We link emotion to everything we do, literally
Once you can understand how and more importantly why then you will have a very powerful set of skills to help not only yourself but countless others as well.
Let us take food for example.
You will have a specific food that links to a specific emotion/feeling and when you’re not getting said emotion/feeling you will dive straight into the cupboard/fridge/freezer to pull out your crutch for that hit of instant gratification & feeling.
We subconsciously know this as well.
Why else do you think we ask people if they feel better after they’ve eaten?
We don’t ask them – “Are you nutritionally sustained from your meal?”.
No, we ask them how they feel and it they feel that they need any more or anything else.
Listening to the way people talk is an incredible skill.
Allowing each word to settle in your mind while also observing all the idiosyncrasies can really help you understand a person.
First though you must understand yourself.
“Because, if you can’t love yourself how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?Can I get an Amen?” – RuPaul
Give some though to the above, are you in control of your emotions or re they in control of you?