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2020 vs 2019

You suffer because you make bad choices.
 
Typically when shit hits the fan we can trace things back to that exact moment it all began, which is usually of our own doing.
 
As Christmas day approaches many are gearing up for a feast.
 
Gluttony will rule the day.
 
Don’t get me wrong, eat, drink, be merry, just be mindful as well.
 
It’s not uncommon that over the month of December 2019 to perhaps even mid Jan 2020 (when most people go back to work) the ‘rules’ go out of the window.
 
This can lead to people gaining up to 2 stone in weight, most of which is usually fat, not good.
 
It’s oaky though because in the new year they will become later focused and mike next year their bitch.
 
😂😂😂
 
Um, yea, no, no you won’t because you said that about 2019 and found every excuse imaginable to maintain the string of successive failures that have been accumulated over the last decade or more.
 
I guess at least in that way people are consistent.
 
It’s why new years resolutions are bullshit for the most part.
 
If someone truly wanted changed they’d already be well anther way to making it happen, as opposed to talking about it, making all the grandiose plans and then royally ballsing it ups within the first three weeks of the new year.
 
People just don’t want change, and that’s okay.
 
What gets me is who everyone talks about it, pats each other on the back and indulges one another bullshit.
 
Just stop it.
 
Please.
 
You know as well as I do that you’ll do nothing, simply because you don’t really want to and with the modern narrative of body positivity, accepting every flaw in a person (so long as it fits the social, economical, political narratives of the day) and generally pretending everything is great we are encouraged to do so.
 
True you don’t need to change, yet you should want to.
 
What is the sense in remaining as we are when there is so much to gain in experience, enjoyment and a sense of purpose/achievement from making the conscious choice to become more than what we are?
 
I don’t know, maybe it’s just me.
 
After stagnating for so long, making all the excuses and avoiding the future I’ve finally become too tired to entertain my own bullshit anymore, much less anyone else’s.
 
Take a look back at all the NYR that you’ve not hit.
 
Now ask yourself why you didn’t achieve them.
 
Finally make a choice, you want to change or you don’t.
 
Simple really.
 
Don’t get suckered in by enjoying failure and what is brings (sympathy, people being nice, an excuse to be weak), choose change, choose to struggle to succeed and embrace all the negative shit that comes with it.
 
In the end it will be worth far more to you than you realise.
 
Enjoy,
Ross

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The Potentials Reel

With 2020 fast approaching it makes you wonder how many people won’t achieve their goals.
 
While this may sound mean in our modern world of ‘everything is awesome’ it’s true.
 
A lot of people have began chatting about how next year will be their year.
 
How they will smash it, take no prisoners, become better.
 
Yea, all bullshit.
 
It sounds good on social media and allows them enough engagement to get the feel good hits of dopamine etc they want/need, all while also knowing they won’t need to follow through on it because no one really cares enough to push/challenge them on what they will say.
 
Why waste your time talking a great game if you won’t follow it through?
 
Is your life that unimportant to you?
 
Has your illusion become worth more than your reality?
 
It is a truly frustrating time to be alive because there is so much wasted potential it hurts.
 
To see people with such an amazing amount of opportunity fall short each and overtime because they, for lack of better terminology, are insecure wannabes.
 
Yep, so many are scared of success because of how insecure they have become.
 
The second someone challenges them in any way they fall to pieces and flood their social media feed with passive aggressive nonsense, or they run and hide while making all the excuses that while hard to refute for various reasons (usually emotional ones) are still nothing more than excuses.
 
We’ve all done it though, I know I have many times over.
 
Now there is not much time left I personally don’t see the point in not pursuing what you seek as improvement and being honest about it if you fail.
 
If you don’t want to do something, great, don’t do it.
 
Avoid being a person who promises the world and delivers sweet fuck all, no one likes a flake.
 
Ah, the term ‘flake’.
 
An apt description for the majority of people these days, people that have such potential yet want nothing more than to sound the part, to talk a good game and have people think they’re gods among men, instead of mere shadows.
 
I don’t know, maybe this is just my own bitterness creeping out.
 
Nah, it almost 100% is that.
 
You see we grow so tired of watching the same patterns.
 
Seeing a story repeated again and again and again.
 
Change the reel, you might just find a better story.
 
Anyway, I’ve brought down the mood enough, do with the above what you will, however whatever it is be sure it’s something worthy of your potential.
 
Better to look back at your life and smile with the aura and satisfaction of you did all you could than to wonder, what if?
 
Enjoy,
Ross

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Mind, Yourself

Your mind often gives out before your body.
Mental toughness or resilience is a desirable attribute.
You can build up this skill and reserves of will-power of many years of deliberate practice and mindfulness.
While some people are just born tougher than others, it is a trait that can be learned, if it matters enough to you.
Digging deep as it’s know can be rather uncomfortable.
You see this is the crossroads for many because we greatly dislike being uncomfortable because, well, it’s not a nice feeling.
Stress (positive & negative) is an integral part of life.
Learning to embrace it, accept it and finally master it.
This is what will take your levels of performance in all aspects of life to the next level, provided this is something you desire.
One way you can begin to gain this is to practice it.
The gym is a great place to apply this thought process because the next time you’re lifting just see how many reps you can do with a certain weight before you have to stop, and then keep going 😂
In all seriousness you’d find you’ve probably got more in the tank.
When we hit our rep limit because everything is burning and our mind is screaming at us to stop, we often find there is actually way more left in the tank.
You have a lot of reserves, you just don’t sue them because it’s uncomfortable to do so.
True story.
^^Obviously you don’t let your form in lifting go to shit when trying this as that will lead to injury.
The common name for the above is RIR – Reps in Reserve.
Many of us have way more to give than we actually do, yet we still wonder why we’re not getting the progress we perhaps feel we should (hint…. it’s because we’ve still got more to give).
You can apply this to your nutrition as well.
Do you need to give in to your cravings/addictions or is that something you do simply because you’re not resilient enough?
Business has a similar vein, those who tough things out often reap the rewards those who dropped out early on wish they’d stuck around to gain in the end.
Living in our world of instant gratification has made us weak.
Mentally, physically and emotionally.
Worry not though, you can regain that which has become dulled over the years. You’d simply need to spend some time sharpening these skills again and before you know it you’ll be the one people come to asking –
“How did you do it, can I do that too?”
Be warned though, this isn’t a comfortable experience.
Change never is.
In the end it will be worth it because you will have elevated yourself and with that you’ll be able to help bring those who matter to you up as well.
Success breed success after all.
You should investigate this thoroughly.
Enjoy,
Ross

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Desire, Inclusivity & More

One thing that people universally desire from any for of exercise is a result.
 
Now what this result is can differ, however there is still one that is sought after.
 
Believe it or not this is why people actually start training.
 
What keeps people training is them actually achieving the result, not just enjoying the training.
 
In my experience people always seems o enjoy their training more when they feel it’s working, doubly so when it actually works, funny that.
 
If you are honest with yourself how much would you really enjoy something that isn’t giving you any real benefit or providing you a satisfactory feeling/result?
 
Not long I’m willing to bet.
 
I don’t say this on a whim either.
 
I say it because it’s true and working with hundreds of people of the years has only proven this, despite what conventional wisdom and popular opinion may say.
 
When you’re getting nothing from something you won’t do it for long, and even if you enjoyed it at the start that won’t last.
 
One of the biggest reasons we do anything is because we want something.
 
The modern attitude will say this is selfish and should be shamed, yet is there really anything so wrong with wanting more or the best for yourself?
 
No, there isn’t.
 
(so long as you’re not hurting other people to achieve it)
 
These days we allow people to fail.
 
In fact we almost encourage it by saying things such as:
 
“You’re fine just as you are.”
“If you enjoy doing it then keep doing it.”
“Do what makes you happy.”
 
While on the outside they all seem like the right and good things to say, this isn’t always the case.
 
There are many situations where when people do what makes them happy the consequences are disastrous, same goes for not pushing people out of the comfort zone to grow and shed their shell so that they can gain a new one.
 
Personally I hold inclusivity in contempt for this.
 
You see in trying to include everyone there were two paths to take to achieve this.
 
1 – Bring them up to higher levels
2 – Lower the current levels to make it easier
 
Our modern world went for the latter and as a result it’s made a lot of people weak, both physically and mentally.
 
This isn’t good.
 
Why would you not want to bring people up?
 
Now there will be plenty of people who say this isn’t fair, it makes people feel bad and so on, which may indeed be the case, however life isn’t fair. Life has never been nor will ever be fair.
 
The easy and fair life is a pipe dream.
 
The sooner people realise that the better, and the more willing they are to accept that it’s okay to want to improve on what they have and strive for more the faster they’ll progress.
 
While it may be considered selfish to want more, that doesn’t mean it’s not a worthwhile thing to chase.
 
Thinking back to your own training over the years, what did you enjoy the most?
 
Now think about when you got the best results (or achieve a goal you really wanted), did you enjoy the training/process purely because of the training/process or was it worth it because of the reward at the end?
 
Share your thoughts below.
 
Enjoy,
Ross

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Do we even need to train?

We get told there are things we have to do in regards to training, and in regards to specific goals it’s 100% accurate, however for general life it’s more like set of guidelines.
 
The goal of all life is death.
 
Well, avoiding it for as long as possible is what most desire.
 
To achieve this you need optimal health.
 
Does this necessarily mean you’ll be able to run a marathon, deadlift 3xBW or do 10 rounds in the ring with Tyson, no it probably doesn’t.
 
When it comes to your training do you ever ask yourself what is it you actually need to life a full and fruitful life?
 
Then I suppose that begs the question of if you want a long life (quantity) or a life filled with adventure, memories and learning (quality).
 
🤔🤔🤔
 
Once you know what it is that you desire, your training can reflect that.
 
In general life we can say that realistically we may need three type of strength – lifting, carrying, getting up.
 
As for CV, well the need is to be able to walk for extended periods of time, at potential pace without getting winded.
 
Pretty simple really.
 
You can achieve this many ways.
 
That being said, one of your life goals might be to have an epic physique, godly strength, skills galore or generally be an all round badass, if so then you’ll need to dial in some specifics.
 
There isn’t much we need to do in this life, especially fitness/training related.
 
Before you go down a rabbit hole be sure to ask yourself why you’d choose to go down it and what it will do for you in the long run that when you look back you can say without hesitation – “Totally worth it.”
 
Choose your path for you, otherwise you’ll end up going down someone else’s.
 
You should investigate this thoroughly.
 
Enjoy,
Ross

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Tackling walls head first

The longer you spend in fitness the more it seems as if you’re banging your head against a brick wall.

Some will listen, some won’t and when some do they end up tweaking and changing things to fit wha they want to be, rather than how it ought to be.

Given the almost endless amount of information we have access to, finding patters of what work is easy.

The hard part is having people stick to them.

You see most things will work provided you give them a fair crack at the whip.

Does it mean it’s the ‘perfect’ method for you?

Absolutely not, you might be better off doing something else, however unless you give a good amount of time to anything then nothing will ever work.

How long do we need to stay with something?

That’s the million dollar question and I don’t have a good answer for it.

6 weeks?
12 weeks?
26 weeks?

As with a lot of things it will come down to the ever classic fallback of – it depends.

One thing may work for you for 3 weeks only, something else might work for 3 years, it’s truly a pain in the ass to know, however you simply need to take that chance and give something a go.

If you find it isn’t doing anything, then go back to what you were doing.

The tricky part is actually having the courage to try something new and the faith to stick at it for a while.

You’ve probably heard of the old sayings surrounding change taking time, that results (whatever they are to you) will be less a straight line and more like and spirograph.

I truly wish I could tell you exactly what YOU needed to hear.

I can’t and anyone who claims to is either a tad naive or is trying to sell you something.

Giving general advice however, well, stick with something for at least 6months, if nothing happened then chances are it’s not the right thing for you to be doing.

Say you are getting results and they seem consistent, great, keep going.

Simple really.

Enjoy,
Ross

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A creature of not letting go

Creature comforts, that’s all they are and yet you won’t let them go. Even the detrimental ones.
 
Please do tell me why.
 
Be these your supplements for training, binge watching habits or destructive food choices, do tell me why you can’t let them go.
 
I too had these… Have these, although most have been given away and the realisation they were no longer of any use was accepted a couple still hang on.
 
The reason they’re there for me is nothing other than comfort, protection and the satiation of a lingering childhood ego the has yet to fade into the back of my memories to be forgotten and replaced by something better.
 
Growth take times, yet the first step will often be looking deeply at what we do and understanding why.
 
Knowing plenty of people who willing get stuck in a loop is inherently fascinating to me.
 
Why would someone choose suffering, stagnation and on occasion regression over growth and moving forwards?
 
What emotional tie to do they to this ‘thing’, because that’s all our attachments really are in the end, emotions that hold on to things that no longer serve a purpose.
 
Are yours because of self imposed punishment, an inability to forgive yourself for your past mistakes or maybe it’s something as simple as denial.
 
Questions worth some of your time, although ultimately you’ve no need to listen to me or entertain/consider what I say, this is because I’m not the boss of you, in fact I’m no one in the grand scheme of things, yet that won’t stop me from being forever curious as to why it is people, we, do what we do.
 
You should investigate this thoroughly.
 
Enjoy,
Ross

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Life is Chess, You are a pawn

“I do not wish for immortal glory. Nor to have my name etched in histories unbreakable stone. All that I seek is keep moving forwards, to become better. Not the best, just better because it’s all I can do in this life.”
 
In response – “So why don’t you then?”
 
How many times have you heard people talk a good game only to 180 on their own altruistic and nobel words.
 
It’s easy to talk the talk, yet actually putting one foot in front of the other, well that’s where shit gets hard.
 
So many are ‘could have beens’ in this life.
 
They waste their natural gifts because it’s easier to embrace the fantasy of ‘what if’ or ‘if only’ instead of embracing the bitter reality of ‘what is’.
 
A lot of people I know talk about what they want, some even go as far as getting it and then upon the realisation that it doesn’t solve all their problems they react in one of two ways.
 
– Stagnation
– Regression
 
Those who fall in to the comfort zone of the first try to live of their minor achievement for the rest of their days, and for a time it works yet eventually people get tired of listening to stories of their glory days because they’re so far in the past they’re not longer relevant.
 
The people who sink in to the sands of regression.
 
It is for those people I truly feel for.
 
Getting that which they sought the most, hoping it would fix everything only to find it didn’t and that intact the problem wasn’t something they could fix externally and that it was something deep inside all along.
 
Something that was broken, that needed to be accepted and perhaps even leg go of, alas it’s too late for that now.
 
In a panic they try to regain what they now feel is lost and try to regress to their former self, yet all the end up doing is becoming a shadow of that and fall even deeper in to their own self cerated abyss and hell.
 
Life is always going to be about choice.
 
With choice comes a direction and all that we can hope is that it takes us forwards.
 
True enough some will take us sideways, yet even those are better than staying still, however none can lead us backwards because like the retro games of the past you can only move forwards and that which came before is now cut off forever.
 
Unlike a game though life has no reset button and you have to live with your decision, like it or not that’s how life goes.
 
How many times have you wanted to go back?
 
Once, twice, hundreds?
 
In any of these lamenting moments did you ever stop and ask yourself why you wanted to go back?
 
Was it because that pain and suffer was familiar and that you’d developed just enough coping mechanisms to allow survival or was it because of something else, cowardice & fear perhaps?
 
My dear people who read these ramblings, do you resonate with any of the above or is it just me in my madness who has felt this?
 
Either way take heed of my words, you can only move forwards and regardless of wether you do or you don’t everything else will because time waits for no one.
 
Remember this.
 
Enjoy,
Ross

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One coffee laden ramble

The internet being what it is can lead people to saying some rather bold things.
 
Some might not even be 100% accurate 🤯
 
Shocking, right?
 
That being said, we’d like to think that the majority of people are trying to be helpful however the might take looking past the endless ‘10% discount with code XXXX’.
 
In fitness everyone wants their slice of the pie.
 
Ironically though they end up doing the same things as everyone else and going for a very slim piece instead of actually trying to be an individual.
 
Despite all the memes about living your true life or becoming the best version of you, most follow the crowd.
 
Following the crowd can seem safe.
 
Safety in numbers and all that.
 
This however doesn’t give much room for reflection or growth though because let us say you read some of your older content and now know it’s complete horse shit.
 
What are you to do?
 
Have a follow up piece where you address past misconceptions and outdated information, or do nothing and not upset the apple cart.
 
Over the years I’ve personally done both.
 
In the salt decade or so it has been the former, however in much younger days the idea of being wrong or at least admitting it was a bitter pill to swallow however that attitude was grown out of.
 
One such topic that needed multiple revisions was nutrition.
 
As more knowledge as gained the simpler it became and despite the average person desperately hoping they had some sort of unique issue that was causing all their issues in truth it was just a lifestyle choice problem.
 
Talking about what you will do, want to do or could do is more than enough for most people to release a hit of dopamine so that they feel good.
 
^^ You know the chats you have while stuffing your face with delicious foods and alcohol and making all the bet promises of ‘starting tomorrow’, which for many never happens.
 
Taking control is hard for some people to do in their own life.
 
Same goes for info shared about fitness on the web.
 
It’s hard to admit that what might be shared could be missing some vital considerations and perhaps isn’t gospel.
 
This is where science/evidence comes in to play.
 
It backs up points, however it too can be abused and manipulated to suit a purpose/cause or prove a point.
 
Given this truth what is the average person to do in regards to knowing what is, what isn’t and what’s just complete turd?
 
Trial & error.
 
Yep, it sucks because there is rarely a definitive answer and you simply need to put time an effort in to things.
 
How much of each?
 
As much as you can spare and what you’ll find is that is just helps build a base, a foundation that everything else can be launched from.
 
You probably heard the old saying that ‘success leaves clues’.
 
^^ This is where listening to the anecdote of those who’ve achieved what you’re trying to is worth your time.
 
It doesn’t mean you need to apply it, however it can be useful to know provided you ask the right question.
 
Classically when you look at someone who is now the success you wish to be you end up asking what they re currently doing to be that successful and while it’s not a terrible question it’s the wrong one to be asking because you’re not in the same place they are.
 
The question you want to ask is this:
 
‘When you were in my position what did you do?’
 
^^ Ask for their original thoughts/avenues taken, problems, successes, sunken costs, wasted time and things they SHOULD have done yet didn’t because they felt at the time they knew better.
 
Much like looking at top level body builders.
 
People want to know their training and nutrition they do now, even though those asking the question are 110lbs newbies.
 
They’d do well to ask what said pro’s did when they were 110lbs and go from there – just to reiterate the point.
 
Anyway just a bit of a ramble today based on some reflective thought.
 
Enjoy,
Ross

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Fitness & the Mid-Life Crisis

Do you wonder what your ‘mid-life crisis’ is going to look like?

Could it end up being the classic mixture of getting tattoos, a entirely new wardrobe to regain lost rebellious youth and maybe a bike too.

I guess you could be one of those who leaves their partner, home and comfortable life for someone 10+ years younger and partying on school nights.

Working in fitness you’ll find you see this happen a lot.

People getting results and aesthetic change often being the catalyst.

While we say looks don’t matter they do, as does the attention that comes with them.

True enough some very unique people get a lot attention and yet they never seem to hold on to a persona or settle down.

The sad reason why is because such people are often seen as a fetish, you know something that you want to do behind closed doors yet wouldn’t want to be seen in the light of day with.

This doesn’t mean they’re a bad person or not worth anything else other than being a fetish, however that’s just how it goes.

Sadly I’ve seen it happen many many times over.

Same is true for those who once upon a time were the object of everyones desire & attention, able to pick and choose at will.

Yea that fades over time and they too are cast to the margin bin. From all perspectives it can be quite the knock to a persons confidence.

It won’t change anytime soon and as such the mid-life crisis will always be a thing.

They usually reignite some of the embers of attention that was once a roaring flame, and to some that’s enough, for now.

Of course this too will die out eventually.

Once that happens you’ll be left with a bike you never ride, tattoos that you don’t like and a head full of bad memories.

I’m sure you know someone who has had, or perhaps is going through this time in their life, maybe it all started when they began going to the gym.

Who knows, just some food for thought.

If you do happen across people in this situation try to understand it from their point of view and more importantly why they feel as they do.

Knowing how someone feels can be the biggest step in helping them, especially if you get it too.

Hopefully it will also help you avoid the same pitfall.

Enjoy,
Ross

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