Thirsty
Bored
Tired
Or Emotional
It’s not uncommon for people to turn to food a knee jerk reaction, but before we go on I’d like you to remember this ONE THING.
Food isn’t the enemy.
Often it’s something we head towards because of familiarity and potentially because it’s a learned coping mechanism that brings a sense of equilibrium, control, comfort or reprieve.
Looking at the 4 listed words above – Thirst, Boredom, Tiredness, Emotion.
These are all elements that people tend to mistake for hunger, odd as it might sound.
A lot of people think they’re hungry when in actual fact they are probably just thirsty and grabbing a drink such as water, fruit tea or something else with little to no calories will actually tick the box required.
If someone is genuinely hungry then even after drinking say 250ml of a beverage they will still have a clear signal.
This can help you relearn how to understand, listen and become connected with your body again.
But what if you’re bored, how can that become confused as hunger?
Quite easily.
When someones attention is wandering from their current task or they’ve simply got a chunk of empty space/time to fill they can turn to food.
This is actually a learned behaviour that has become habit.
Think back to being a kid and being bored.
Did you go to Mum or Dad with the ever classic line of – “I’m bored…..”
What was their response?
Did they provide you with the attention, validation and support you needed or put you in front of the TV with food or just give you food?
In which case there’s a high possibility of learning that to relieve boredom you can do it via eating because you’re then technically doing something.
That something in the form of eating might be good for boredom relief in the short term but it is terrible for your waistline in the long run.
To know if you’re actually hungry or simply bored there’s a simple solution – DO SOMETHING.
It can be anything.
Skip for 10min, do 100 squats using an OTM of 10 squats per min, hit 50 pull ups with an OTM of 5 pull ups per min or maybe 20 kettlebell swings for the same OTM idea.
You might even decide to go for a walk, draw something, start a painting, phone that close relative you’ve not spoken to in a while that you know you really NEED to speak to because they’ve not go long left…..
There’s endless options.
After the fact you can then think deeply and connect with your body and ask the big question – “Am I still hungry?”
If you are then you’ll know, but usually most people won’t be and their solution to the problem was simply to go do something.
What about being tired, how does that translate in to a false hunger?
From a simple technical standpoint it’s because you’re suffering a little fatigue and as a result you will want a mental pick me up.
This often comes in the form of seeking out sugary foods because they give you an instant spike in energy.
But you can achieve the same outcome though what some call fire breathing.
This technique of fire breath is quick-paced, rhythmic, and sustained for a long period of time.
It’s easily found in yoga practices and will leave you feeling invigorated because of how it affects your sympathetic nervous system.
You can also achieve similar outcomes through some movement flows or dynamic (but controlled) movements.
These will again have a beneficial impact on your nervous system that some say is a ‘neural charge’.
I’ve found things such kettlebell swings performed with a slid intent (35-50 reps) great for reawakening my body and helping me understand I wasn’t hungry, just a little down regulated in a nervous system sense.
Something like the above (breathing or movement) will often result in the phantom hunger vanishing.
Now the last element can end up leading down a deep rabbit hole….
Emotions are often driving peoples metaphorical bus and they will take you where THEY want to go based on how you’ve learned to cope with them.
People will turn to food when their emotions are running high, low and anywhere in-between.
I will be honest and say I can’t tell you what your personal emotional signals are, that will take focused work from you to know.
What I can share with you is how my own emotions work.
Personally food isn’t my go to when emotions are running rampant, training is.
Being naturally aligned with always moving about is one reason for this, and another which I’d say is actually the biggest reason food isn’t the ‘go to’ when the heart takes over from the head is this – I didn’t get given food to keep mom quite, calm, happy etc as a kid.
This is one thing I’ve noticed with a lot of people.
Those that head to food when feelings join the fray do so because it was engraved into their mind/body to do so at a young age.
Food was given when they were happy, sad, good, bad, being rewarded or being punished.
Food was the result/outcome of almost all of their childhood triggers which is why seeking it in almost every situation is their first port of call and when this loop can’t be fulfilled an astronomical amount of distress is the outcome.
The reason for that can be understood in brain chemistry (neurotransmitter cycles), neural pathways and mental impressions.
While it is entirely possible to rewire brain & rewrite your mental programming it’s not easy.
I’d also highly advise you have help in doing this because you might unlock some doors you’re not prepared to go through alone.
Starting out if you feel hunger creeping in grab a pen and paper (a dairy is deal) and write down the following:
- What is happening in the moment
- How has it made you feel
- What is the INSTANT response you WANT to do
- How will this make you feel in the moment
- What will you feel later once the moment (and eating has passed)
- Why do you want to change this pattern
- How will you feel once you’ve changed the pattern
- Why is that IMPORTANT to you
Take some time to go over the above a couple of times.
Don’t aim to change too much too soon.
First I’d suggest working to understand the difference between truly what feeling hungry is for you so that when that specific feeling isn’t there then you’ll be able to seek out what’s really going on.
If you want to chat about the above then please do reach out.
Enjoy,
Ross