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It’s quite an interesting word really.
We will often hear people talk about how to stay motivated when things get tough, or how to reignite a lost motivation and anything that is of a similar disposition, and while the intentions are good it is a sad truth that it rarely helps, if at all.
Talking a good game to achieve that instantaneous boots in moral is easy.
People can get a similar dopamine hit from merely talking about what they re going to do, in fact if you take the time to dig in to the science surrounding it you’ll find that the brain scans etc are almost indistinguishable in terms of response, meaning from a glance (without knowing exactly what to look for), you’d not see any really difference.
Same goes for the biochemical responses, to a degree.
That’s a rather fascinating little thing to know, however don’t take my word for it, please delve down that rabbit hole.
Anyway, back to motivation.
Aiming to sustain it, reignite it, or draw on some special reserve is largely a fruitless endeavour because it isn’t motivation that keeps us going, it’s resilience.
It is easy to see how people think it’s that people are highly motivated, however this not really how it works because you will find that the aforementioned is more akin to gasoline and added to the fire for that initial oomph in to action and after that you’re going to need something more substantial to keep that furnace going.
Unfortunately I can’t tell you what that ‘thing’ is to you because I’m not you.
For me it’s a simple case of enjoying the struggle and having go fight my way through a tough challenge because once I come out the other end of it all I will know a lot more about myself.
This is what sustains me through the resistances I meet when pursuing a goal.
It’s a conscience choice to keep moving forwards, that’s all.
If you can make yourself doing the thing you need to do, then in the end you’ll find what once seemed like an insurmountable task wasn’t really that bad, even if the struggle is real it’s better to embrace it every step of the way and just do what needs to be done, than it is to rely on bursts of motivation.
Of course this is only one perspective.
Having lofty goals can be a good thing, you’d be surprised that if you are to ask for the Moon how often once all was said and done it would be given to you.
Aim high, fight on, enjoy your motivation while it’s there just don’t rely on it and prepare for the struggle.
Once you come out the other end, it’ll all be worth it.
Psychology truly is fascinating.
It’s especially interesting to give it some thought while sat pretentiously drinking coffee, because that’s the sign of true intellect, apparently 😂
Take 5 minutes and listen to what people are talking about around you, if possible try to find the ones who are discussing their stress and reaction to said stress.
What habits do they give in to?
Are there any childish reactions?
Is their continued suffering really worth that extra slice of cake?
It’s not uncommon that people are emotional eaters.
Even when you try to be helpful and provide guidance that will steer them in the direction health & longevity, they will still have a retort akin to “Oh, well everything in moderation.”.
No, just no.
Did you know that some people can’t do moderation, and that there are others who really need to stop putting their hand int he cookie jar because of declining health.
These mindsets of “You deserve a treat, you’ve been good.” are drummed in to us as children.
Yep, parents use sweet and certain foods as punishment, reward, basically tools to control a child’s behaviour and this is where many develop a warped mindset with food as it becomes their comfort, their friend, their torturer, their master.
I’m sure some will read this and get offended, because people are quite weak mentally these days and claim that they enjoy the taste of foods, etc etc.
To those people, guess what, everyone (or most people) enjoy food, however if you proceed to eat like an idiot with not a thought to your health you will pay the price in the long run, if you’re not already paying it and it all starts with the psychology of how people relate to food.
Food is just food, it is not something that should control you and if it does then you may wish to seek out some guidance to overcome this and take back control and realise you’re the master.
Personal question for you, have you ever had an eating disorder?
An alarming amount of people have at one stage or current do, so don’t feel you’re alone, there are plenty of others who understand the peace you’re in.
If you also know this, what keeps you in it?
To me this is the fascinating part, because many often choose to stay in a vicious and potentially abusive cycle, because the pain of living any other way seem too great.
Is that how you feel?
Food can have quite the hold over people, I would know.
Food was never used as a tool to control my behaviour as a child so I didn’t grow up with any particular affinity to a food (junk or otherwise), my own personal issue came from being in a highly competitive field that required weight monitoring, again the food itself wasn’t the issue.
Over time various things were learnt, one being a family predisposition (fathers side) to Gluten, most of them have Celiac, this poisoned my mind because it gave me something to latch on to, a logical excuse for not doing certain things, not eating certain foods, basically a reason to become neurotic.
As you can imagine a tricky relationship with food started to develop, this caused various issues in both mental health, physical health along with putting quite the strain on relationships.
Of course at the time it’s never us that is the problem, or the way we eat, nor the way we think, it’s everyone else who does’t understand. We become so enamoured with what we know or rather feel we know that we stop listening to anything that doesn’t fit the narrative we want it to fit.
A dangerous and lonely place to be, so much so that we seek out people in a similar place, that say similar things and it makes us much worse for it.
Think of it like this, where is the worst place for a meth addict to be?
Surrounded by others who hold the attitude of “It’s okay, I need it, we need it, why should we let them take it away from us, it’s ours, our precious.” – extreme example, however one that is easy to understand.
It is hard to break away from a particular mindset by surrounding yourself with people who also think that way, doing that is only going to further confirm the bias that what is being done is okay, when it might be quite harmful to us, again, a place I’ve personally been in.
The only way to move forwards is to speak to those people that perhaps anger or frighten us, not the ones that pander to our biases.
Overtime sense was seen and a swift realisation came.
To be more than we are, we must be prepared to accept the pain of change and seek out those that will tell us what we don’t want to hear as that is often what we need to hear.
While their is comfort in the familiar, just because it si comfortable it doesn’t mean it’s any good for you.
Anyway, enough of that reminiscing.
Share your thoughts, not what you think people want to hear mind you, YOUR thoughts and what food means to you and if possible where you feel this attitude came from.
I look forwards to reading them.