Fear is a primal emotion.
It’s built into our very being at the core.
Mother Nature in her infinite wisdom gave us this gift so that we would be able to keep ourselves safe and propagate the the species, while ideally having the odd moment of enlightenment before we pass on.
Unfortunately we act and base our choices, decisions and life largely based around avoiding shadows.
Uncovering what lurks under the bed is something we’d rather not risk.
Even though it will more than likely be nothing, it could be something and that’s enough to keep various beliefs alive that would be better off being laid to rest.
I’ve been reflecting on my own fears a lot of late.
This is the main one at the root of it all – getting in trouble.
Many times over the shit has landed firmly at my feet.
Sometimes deserved and always accepted because it was acknowledged as a legitimate fault on my end due to inexperience, ignorance, naivety and making a mistake which resulted in a lesson learned.
Often times though shit has been thrown my way just because it had to go somewhere.
Endless amount of hassle for no apparent reason.
Now while digging through the memories within deep states of meditation and rewatching each of these instances to really scrutinise my role I was able to find those that I could take on the chin as say – “Fair enough, I can take that because in the end it’s a good learning opportunity.”
And then there’s other times that still sit within the void as those that stung because of being a scapegoat or thrown to the wolves.
Obviously I survived, but it came at the cost of trust and overall faith in people.
Sadly many will turn on you for self preservation purposes, that’s nothing to lament though because it’s just their nature (as it is for most folk), so I can’t be angry or hold a grudge aligned with wrath however I do still feel a lot of disappointment.
I knowing the above I can see a lot of times that these experiences and the beliefs born of them have caused hesitation in taking opportunity, stopped necessary actions being taken and generally held me back.
And easy as it is to blame them, it’s all still coming from me.
Because even though we might be ‘unaware’, we’re not really.
We know what is holding us back (ourselves), and often where the seed that this thorny weed came from, it’s just easier to pretend we don’t know and be victims.
I suppose it then begs the question – How much longer are you going to hold yourself back?
In the end you’re the only one that can really do anything of meaningful impact within the life you have.
While you might want to wait for someone to come and save you, giving you all you think you want, it’d be hollow and as a result whatever ‘it’ is that you’d received there’s a 100% chance it’d be destroyed by your own hand because of not feeling deserving of it.
Think of it like imposter syndrome x1000.
You don’t want saving, not really.
You want to be free of the chains that bind you to that which you fear.
The most ironic part.
The chains are attached and bound to the belief at the bottom of life flow, and you’re simply holding on to those chains to keep yourself in one place instead of allowing the energy to carry you towards a better place.
Perhaps picture it as holding on to a tree branch as a raging current tries to carry you downs stream.
Yes the torrents would bash and bruise you for a while but once you come to the end everything would become still, clear, at peace and it’s then you’d be able to see that what you thought was there to harm you (the current) was actually attempting to guide and a take you exactly where you needed to be.
Take some time and reflect on the above.
Find a quiet place to sit and ask the question – what am I afraid of?
Then allow all the noise to rush in, but don’t worry because it will subside.
The noise is merely a distraction from the fear/belief to keep you from the answers you need to know.
Once there is silence & stillness you’ll hear what you need to hear from within.
Trust yourself because you’ve got the answers.
You’ve got all you need within you.
Give it the opportunity to be heard and watch what happens.
Ross