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How is your training going?
I bet your answer is ‘F**king epic!’.
Well, at least I hope it is.
This pursuit of a better version of oneself is something that captivates many.
One things I’ve noticed over the years though is the level of denial many will have about what it is they want to achieve.
What do I mean by this?
Simply that people will put limits on telling people what they want to achieve, and perhaps even go so far as to tell themselves the same things.
I’ms sure you’ve heard people or perhaps you yourself have said things like this:
“I don’t want to get too big, it’s not a good look for me.”
“I’m not interested in being ripped, I just want to lose some weight.”
“Losing weight doesn’t bother me, I’m doing if for health.”
While the above may be true, I’ve often found when talking to people that not to be the case and these self limiting views come from a couple of main places.
1 – Not wanting to se the bar high and fail to reach it
2 – They don’t want to be viewed as vain or narcissistic.
Both of the above as you can see are based on worrying about what everyone else will think.
A vicious cycle many fall in to.
We put a lot of stock in the opinions of other people, even if we claim we don’t.
Many need to approval of the group.
This isn’t a bad thing you know, it’s human nature.
The only problem with it these days is that the group is no longer a small one, it’s potentially in the thousands.
Just look at Instagram models, they need to keep their audience happy otherwise, poof, gone and forgotten.
In our earliest days our groups would be small, simply because of the way we lived. The tribe was much smaller, as such the opinions we needed for validation was only a select few in number.
Not now though.
Now we need to appease the mob,sad times.
Talking about goals and appeasing the mob, what are yours?
What physical prowess do you wish to achieve?
As a youngster, like many I wanted to become a fighter, to have that look, that athletic ability, essentially the classic martial arts physique.
Luckily my inner circle has always been just one person in size, I guess there is benefit to being an outcast.
How big is yours?
Knowing this will lead you to understand just how much approval you need in regards to your goals.
Also give some though to your goals.
Are they set at a low level so that you have an acceptable margin for failure or have you decided to aim high because bollocks to what everyone else thinks?
Food for thought.
Do you know the is one thing almost everyone has in common?
A lot of people fear change.
We find something that works, that feels good and gets us to new heights, then only to become scared about losing the progress we have made by adapting our routine and changing. This is where a lot of people fall down, MYSELF included.
I can draw on personal and professional experience and quite easily say that making changes is good, so long as they are the right changes.
How do you know what the right changes are though?
There are two answers to that question:
1 – You don’t.
2 – You do.
I know that is a contradiction but it is very true and I will explain why.
At the start of your training or even life journey you have no knowledge and try lots of things until you find the one that works, once you do you stick with it until it stops working and sadly stay there wasting time because you’re scared to change. After a while of being stagnant you take the plunge and try something new, then, low and behold you get new results and once again start to make progress. You then repeat this until you hit the same problem as before and repeat this process for several years.
After around 3-5 years some people finally have the realisation that they need to change their training and train hard until they stop getting results that way,THEN they change again and repeat, thus successfully making progress, all be it very small and slow, but that is better than no progress at all. If you need an example think of it this way; you were doing a full body 5×5 3 days per week for 12 months, then swapped to a body part split of 4 days per week (2 upper, 2 lower), the split lower the overall frequency of how much you’re training each muscle group (3xPW to 2xPW) but it will allow you to work harder and increase the overall session by session volume, this means more progress. You have made a change that while on paper looks like you’re doing less it allows you to do more.
Once you adapt to that volume you can increase the frequency again to once again elicit a positive adaptive response.
As with knowing and not knowing there are two ways you can establish your progression patterns:
1 – Intuition, trial & error.
2 – Tracking and Optimal Programming
I will always push people towards option 2 because there is not one person I know who hasn’t at some stage in their training had a program or structured plan to follow. EVERYONE started off following a plan, be that training or nutrition. While it is true that as they progress they will need this less and less as they know their own body, the best of the best still keep notes, this is why they are at the top.
Take a look at your training and see how your progress has gone, unless you’ve not recorded any of your training, in that case just keep guessing and it will work in the end.