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No programming jargon today.
It’s time for some tough love.
Nobody cares as much as you think they care. Really, they don’t because how you look, how strong you are, how fast you are, how much you’ve achieved is just not that important to them. They only really care about themselves.
Have you ever been in the gym and felt that people were watching you?
The probability of this being true for longer than a few seconds is incredibly low.
Believe it or not they’re not judging how much you’re lifting, or how much excess fat you have, they’re there for the same reason as you – To shift some unwanted love handles, feel better physically/mentally & get shit done.
We’ve all been in a place where we think all eyes are on us.
It’s rarely the case.
Such thoughts will only serve to bind you in invisible chains.
Don’t misunderstand me though, I understand that for some people this ‘social anxiety’ is truly crippling and for them even stepping foot outside is a struggle and for those people I can only extend my hand and wait for them to take hold when ready.
As for everyone else, you probably don’t have social anxiety, you’re just a bit awkward, perhaps because you spend too much time on the internet and social media.
Did you know that excessive amounts of time on the inter-webs lead to increase chances of mental instability, body image issues, the inability to converse and much more.
Now before you gather the mob to hint me down you need to realise that most of the problems the majority of people face are self imposed.
F-E-A-R guides them.
When working with people (depending on their needs and genuine level of distress), I try to get some unnderstadnign what fear is:
False – Evidence – Appearing- Real
So in a gym situation – you walk in and you feel everyone is watching your every move from start to finish.
Initially people may indeed see who’s walked in, then they get back to their focus (what ever that is).
If you start lifting you may again have a few people watch initially, then they will get back to their of session.
The funny thing is one people start to let go of the fear that they’re always being judged, they become far less stressed.
*If you feel you’re always being judged this may stem from he fact that you yourself watch other people with an err of judgement in your eye – not gospel, however it is common as we can only base others potential behaviour off of our own learned ones.
I often speak of writing things down, you should try it.
Once you see on paper what your fears are they’re not quite as scary as you might think.
Try it. Write down you fear and the potential outcomes of that fear, then how likely those outcomes are.
You’ll soon find your worry is potentially unfounded 🙂
Letting go of our preconceived ideas, believes and thoughts is hard, however it’s worth it.
The hand is held out if you need it.
Physical healths popularity and importance has taken a sharp rise over the years. A lot of people are now more aware of how staying strong and conditioned is important for longevity, however there is a lag with the importance of mental health.
Keeping a strong mind is just as important as keeping a strong body, potentially more important because the body can’t live without the mind.
Let’s look at two simple ways you can immediately improve your mental strength.
1 – Learn to meditate.
You might picture a zen master sat in the arch of his pagoda, or perhaps sitting under the crashing waters of a waterfall but worry not, you don’t need to go to those extremes. Simply set aside 2-3 5-10min blocks of time each day to meditate.
People think meditation is the art of purging thought when intact it’s not, it’s about being able to see all your thoughts, slow them down, purge the negative ones and achieve a calm amongst the storm that is your mind. You won’t ever be absent of thought, merely more aware of them, or at least that’s the first steps.
As a mental image think of it like this; see each though as a car driving past, then try to slow them down to see the brand of car, then the people in the car, what they’re wearing and so on. This will help you calm your mind and learn focus. You might even find a thought you never knew you had and have an epiphany.
2 – Take a walk and surround yourself by nature.
Yep, nature. Trees, rivers, foliage, animals, the works. Getting away from the modern concrete jungles and stepping in to a place removed from it all will help you relief see undated stress. Try and have at least one walk like this every day.
Both of the above will help you reduce stress levels (lowering cortisol), this will not only help you mental health but also your physical health as well.
Why don’t you like your body?
^^ A very personal question but one that really should be asked to help gain understanding.
Many people want to be something their not or have a body that is not achievable for them based on the genetic build they have, even though it’s unrealistic and may send them to the edge of madness.
Obviously for some people this will not apply because they re quite content and at peace within themselves, to those people I say, good for you. It is my wish that one day everyone will find this place.
However for the majority that isn’t the case.
Where did it all start?
Magazines, movies, outrageous promises of 30day transformations that are not really sustainable or was it long before that?
As children we never care about how we look, even the children that are known as ‘chubby’, yep, I said it. They have no problem with how they look or how the other treat them, they see the piss taking and jokes as trivial UNTIL they are taught that what is being aid to them is hurtful and meant to make them feel bad, this comes from our parents, peers and life teachers. Just think about that for a second.
People are only hurt by what they are taught too be hurt by. They only care about what they have been told to care about by other people.
Think about it logically, why should you care what other people really think? You shouldn’t but you will because it’s all you know.
Now, when we ask people why this don’t like the way they look, their answers are usually about specific parts or fat storage areas but I really want to know the WHY to these answers. Where did this dislike come from, what was it based on or who did you learn it from?
The answers might seem obvious yet I doubt many have actually sat down and asked themselves why exactly they feel the way they do.
If you know the cause or the root of the evil you can start to make th changes necessary so that you feel HAPPY, as in actually happy, not just waining happiness because you feel you should all down to the fact you have a slender waistline, toned legs and firm buttocks and hair softer than a baby rabbits fur.
Is what you’re doing for something or nothing?
Does this mean that you will finally be happy, content and love your body?
So dear friends, I ask you again, why don’t you like your body, what is the reason and is it your own belief of one you’ve had forced upon you…