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How to make 2019 your year, no seriously this is how you WILL do what you haven’t for the last several.
Scared of failure?
You’re excuses are your own.
The reasons for them are just, I’m sure.
Are they really what is stopping you from moving forwards or is it something else entirely?
Be it fitness, business, life or love, there always seems to be reasons why something won’t go the way we want.
A long time ago I stopped looking at all they reasons things wouldn’t work and instead went in search of the reason it was a guaranteed win for me, idealistic, yes, however it’s surprisingly effective.
This doesn’t mean you ignore the potential pitfalls, you merely accept they’re there and go around them, instead of throwing all the toys out of the pram.
It’s funny when people share those inspirational quotes, you know the kind –
“A black belt is a white belt that didn’t give up.”
“The first step to success is truing up and the second is counting to do so until success is achieved.”
I’m sure you’ve heard plenty of them and novel as they are, there is some truth to them.
From personal experience there are many things that shouldn’t have been a success in my life, yet they were for no other reason than I stuck it out and ended up being the last one standing, Seth Godin refers to this as surviving ‘the dip’ and it is 100% a real thing.
I’m sure you’ve got the potential to do very well in whatever you choose to do, in fact I know you have because I have yet to meet one person yet who is that forsaken by the world to not have the latent potential to make something of themselves, provided they get out of their own way long enough that is.
Take a look at what is stopping you.
Is it what you think it is, or is it just that you’re scared of succeeding and all the hate that’d come with it?
Food for thought.
Triggers, what are yours?
I’m not talking about political agenda or anything morally ambiguous by the way, I’m referring to habits.
This is about those sneaky little things that take over our life and cause us to do things that are perhaps not conducive to progression in the end.
Upon browsing the plethora of solid questions you all ask I’ve noticed a pattern in regards to coming up against that barrier we all have.
Long standing habits.
Most of you fall victim to your habits and thus throw out every excuses under the sun, which is of course your right to do, however that type of behaviour won’t necessarily get you what you want in the end.
In the answers to your questions that other members and myself post it is mentioned that you need to seek out what they (your habits) are and more importantly what causes them (your triggers), yet sometimes this key piece of information if missed as there is no direct answer how to do this, apart from data collection.
I get it you know, when we ask a question we want an answer, preferably one that fits in to our bias/paradigm however this is sadly not how it works.
Establishing our habits, routines and their triggers that send us to the cookie jar takes time.
A lot of time in some cases.
Many of us are firmly routed in our current habit loops.
The good thing though is that they can be changed, the downside is that it will take time and conscience effort and that my friends is where many struggle because they don’t find the pain of change too comfortable.
Not to mention having to think about doing something is quite draining for some which can itself lead to an already linked habit, such as reaching for sweet treats because of the mental overload.
This happens in 4 stags for the most past.
1 – Cue (emotional, physical, environmental trigger)
2 – Craving (food, cigarette, etc)
3 – Response (habit activation/execution, emotional response)
4 – Reward (food, etc to give required neurotransmitter hit)
To find out what they potentially are you’d need to have a detailed diary of the following:
– Day to day routine breakdown
– How the client feels at each stage of the day
– Eating times/routine that leads them to this
– Common stress responses if their routine is broken
– Tasks and how stressful they find them
– Tasks they avoid
– Comfort zones/uncomfortable zones
The list can invariably go on, however seeking out the above can help you start to make great progress because most of our habits/responses are automatic because we have done them for so long they not happen without thought.
Provided the right circumstances (triggers) are met the habit activates and does its thing, and will continue to do so until it’s addressed.
This is not to say all habits are bad, however some are less favourable than others.
In taking the above in to consideration it becomes much easier to understand why we do what we do.
As I’ve mentioned to people many times of the the years –
“Nothing changes if nothing changes.”
While not the answer many want, it’s often the one they need to accept, this way we can move forwards in our understanding and help in the most effective ways possible.
In knowing they ‘why’ you can almost always find the ‘how’.
What current coaching tools to do you have in place to collect the required information from your routine behaviours so that you can find the triggers to the habits?
Share your thoughts, feelings and questions below.
Do you hate your body?
You shouldn’t, it does a lot for you.
A lot of people certainly do, yet there is something that many forget when they are steeped in their loathing.
It’s not your bodies fault it is the way it is.
Honestly, for the most part it does it’s best to keep going for you, despite the excessive amount of calories you force in to it via sub optimal food choices, calorically dense beverages, or even the sleep depriving activities you subject it too.
Regardless of what you do to it, it does it’s best.
So, let us say you have a few extra lbs, who’s to blame?
Is it your body because it’s out to get you and store as much excess body fat as possible so that you have a lower value in the overall dominance hierarchy, or is it because of ‘you’?
*’you’ being mental attitude, bad habits, lifestyle choices, essentially your consciousness, you mind as it were.
Our bodies are vessels, nothing more.
We are in control of them because nothing happens without some form of thought process first (for the most part, medical exceptions that affect mental/hormonal health/perceptions of reality or control excluded).
A lot of people find it easier to blame poor genetics, a bad hand that life dealt them, basically anything else other than themselves.
You’d be surprised how many people keep their ‘genetics’ int he fridge or wine rack.
It is in everyone to take control, all you need it to look inward and honestly think for yourself for a change.
“I think, therefore I am.”
Wow, this is getting quite deep 🤔
Don’t hate your body, appreciate it because what you see aesthetically is not a reflection of a ‘naughty/bad body’ it’s a reflection of YOUR mental state, of your mind, a reflection of what we might call ‘you’.
Your body is not to blame, you are, remember that, accept it and change it.
Change your attitude and you will change your life.
Give it some thought.