2019 is fast approaching.
How will you make it your best year yet?
3 ideas that will lead to success in Fitness, Love & Life.
These sorts of posts will be rife unsocial media soon, so I felt I’d add in my two pennies worth as well.
One common pattern I’ve noticed is that almost everyone who saying things like –
“Next year is going to be my year.”
Only then to epically fail at making the year any different from previous ones all have this in common.
They don’t do anything differently, like nothing.
How can you expect change or a different results if you continue to perform the same things?
Now it might just be me who thinks this way, however that seems rather illogical, as such here is my views that you can choose to apply for change.
The tropes of “next year will be mine”
1 – Achieving a better body, no more XXL pants for me.
The reason internet guru’s and quick fix programs are still round is because people majorly suck at this part of the ‘best year yet’.
Many dislike the discomfort they have to endure to achieve anything notable, while I’d like to say you can make epic change without it, I can’t because it’s not true.
If this sounds like you then here is the answer you need.
Hire a trainer, a real one you can see face to face.
Before you say you don’t have the money, I’m sure you do, write down everything you spend on an average week and make note of what you don’t need, then chop it.
This is doubly true for things you WANT but don’t need because those funds can go towards a far better cause.
The money you invest in a good trainer will be worth it.
2 – I won’t let anymore deadbeats play with my heart.
Bahahahahahha, yea we both know that’s wishful thinking because you will go for the same type of person you always do, simply because they’re your type, obviously.
We get caught in this loop because of familiarity.
Deep in our subconscious we meet people we’ve met before, all because we know the subtle traits, which lets us to seek them out, and because they’re familiar we feel comfortable with them.
I bet you’re guilty of saying things like this “It’s like we’ve known each other for years, yet we only just met.” or the classic “We click, there’s a spark.”
Head for the hills immediately because this is only going to end one way, and you know it.
So, give the above how do you prevent this?
Go to places you’ve never been, step outside of your comfort zone, your circle of friends and venture out to make new circles and new friends.
If you go to the same places, do the same things you’ll always meet the sam people, trust me.
To find something you never knew you were looking for you need to go to places you’d never normally go, it is here you give yourself the chance to be happy by taking a leap of faith in to situations/places that you don’t know.
Go on, step outside your box and see the rest of the world, you never know who you might meet doing so.
Also, you might be better off on your own for a bit, another person might not give you what you think you need, if what you need is to be happy with who you are, in every aspect and element of ‘you’.
Sometimes moving forwards isn’t about doing it with someone else, sometimes it’s about knowing you’ll be alright doing it for yourself.
Better to be alone and be happy in yourself than to be with someone unhappily and change who you are for them because you can’t stomach the thought of not having someone in your life.
3 – I’m will do more things for me, time to be strong.
Admittedly this is more for those of you that are people pleasers.
You know who you are, basically door mats, mugs, that person everyone knows won’t object to anything asked of them because they fear being called a ‘bad friend’ or seen as ‘selfish’ and so on.
Don’t get me wrong, doing kind things and giving to other people is what makes life fulfilling, however there is a difference between doing this out of choice and some misplaced sense of obligation.
I’ve know a lot of people over they years who pride themselves on being that person people go to anything they need help, and bess them they’re too naive to see that their ‘friends’ are simply using them as a mean to and end.
Worst of all is that many who fall in to this description know this is the truth.
You know it too, don’t you….
Having some self-worth, some value in your time and not giving it away willy nilly to anyone who will abuse your generosity doesn’t make you a bad person, if anything it will derive more respect from people in the long run.
To stop being so scared of upsetting the world and it’s dog will be the first step to setting you free fro being everyones bitch.
Might sound harsh, however I’ve seen too many a good friend get drowned in this and not be abel to get themselves out, even with help.
The same thing happens in marriages too, so beware.
So apart from having more self-wroth and internal value, what else can you do?
Here is the biggest, and the hardest part of becoming free of this trope.
Learning to say no, and actually mean it.
Your time is precious, you only have so much of it and by all means give it to people who appreciate it, who you truly care for, however don’t waste it being a dogsbody.
You’re a person too after all, you deserve as much respect and time as you give to others, never forget that.
There you have it, some things to consider for 2019.
If you have any questions please leave them below.