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The longer you spend in fitness the more it seems as if you’re banging your head against a brick wall.
Some will listen, some won’t and when some do they end up tweaking and changing things to fit wha they want to be, rather than how it ought to be.
Given the almost endless amount of information we have access to, finding patters of what work is easy.
The hard part is having people stick to them.
You see most things will work provided you give them a fair crack at the whip.
Does it mean it’s the ‘perfect’ method for you?
Absolutely not, you might be better off doing something else, however unless you give a good amount of time to anything then nothing will ever work.
How long do we need to stay with something?
That’s the million dollar question and I don’t have a good answer for it.
As with a lot of things it will come down to the ever classic fallback of – it depends.
One thing may work for you for 3 weeks only, something else might work for 3 years, it’s truly a pain in the ass to know, however you simply need to take that chance and give something a go.
If you find it isn’t doing anything, then go back to what you were doing.
The tricky part is actually having the courage to try something new and the faith to stick at it for a while.
You’ve probably heard of the old sayings surrounding change taking time, that results (whatever they are to you) will be less a straight line and more like and spirograph.
I truly wish I could tell you exactly what YOU needed to hear.
I can’t and anyone who claims to is either a tad naive or is trying to sell you something.
Giving general advice however, well, stick with something for at least 6months, if nothing happened then chances are it’s not the right thing for you to be doing.
Say you are getting results and they seem consistent, great, keep going.
Take a look around your gym or current place you train.
Now ask yourself, why are you there?
What emotions are driving you to become better than you currently are, if that is intact the case.
After spending one lifetime in the gym, a lot has been seen.
So many failures, stagnations and regressions.
Most people hit their initial goal, they have their first and seemingly last hoorah, only then to spend any further time after they let their starting success slip by trying to get back to ‘where they were’.
A nobel notion, yet it’s still a foolish one.
Speaking from experience, trying to achieve or relive past glories just isn’t wise because everything is different now.
What you did won’t happen in the same way again, you can than the law of accommodation and GAS (general adaptation syndrome) for that.
You see our bodies remember what we did, they adapt and make is so that if we end up doing the sam things again it is less metabolically costly, meaning the results won’t be on the same standard as they were before.
None of this finding what works for you gubbins because what works for you is simply what works RIGHT NOW.
Thing stop working for a reason.
That reason is noted above, you adapted.
While you might really enjoy something if it yields not further result then it’s largely if not entirely a waste of time.
You’d have no hesitation in telling a child that once all their juice is gone from the carton that continue to suckle on it won’t magically produce more juice, same is true for your training, the only difference is that because you’re an adult you seem to have forgotten that the rules of life apply to you.
Another pitfall in doing what we did before, training or nutrition wise, is that we remember how it was and if it’s not up to par we mentally berate ourselves.
This also gives us a reason to fail as well.
Hours then get put into finding all the excuses as to ‘why’ progress can no longer happen, essentially we chase sympathy and pity from others, rather than dragging ourselves forwards out of the mud.
Mud is warm in some cases I suppose, so the appeal is logical.
If the above resonates with you then instead of going back to do what you did before, bin it all off and take another route entirely.
No excuses, no bullshit, just action.
Ask yourself, why am I doing this?
For what reasons emotionally do I want to progress?
Why do I need to be better?
Fond memories of the past should remain as exactly that, memories.
You’re not writing a new chapter because that book is done and now up on a shelf somewhere, it’s time to write a new story instead of repeating and rehashing the same sad old one.
If variety is the spice of life then why not seek change.
How to make 2019 your year, no seriously this is how you WILL do what you haven’t for the last several.
Scared of failure?
You’re excuses are your own.
The reasons for them are just, I’m sure.
Are they really what is stopping you from moving forwards or is it something else entirely?
Be it fitness, business, life or love, there always seems to be reasons why something won’t go the way we want.
A long time ago I stopped looking at all they reasons things wouldn’t work and instead went in search of the reason it was a guaranteed win for me, idealistic, yes, however it’s surprisingly effective.
This doesn’t mean you ignore the potential pitfalls, you merely accept they’re there and go around them, instead of throwing all the toys out of the pram.
It’s funny when people share those inspirational quotes, you know the kind –
“A black belt is a white belt that didn’t give up.”
“The first step to success is truing up and the second is counting to do so until success is achieved.”
I’m sure you’ve heard plenty of them and novel as they are, there is some truth to them.
From personal experience there are many things that shouldn’t have been a success in my life, yet they were for no other reason than I stuck it out and ended up being the last one standing, Seth Godin refers to this as surviving ‘the dip’ and it is 100% a real thing.
I’m sure you’ve got the potential to do very well in whatever you choose to do, in fact I know you have because I have yet to meet one person yet who is that forsaken by the world to not have the latent potential to make something of themselves, provided they get out of their own way long enough that is.
Take a look at what is stopping you.
Is it what you think it is, or is it just that you’re scared of succeeding and all the hate that’d come with it?
Food for thought.
Triggers, what are yours?
I’m not talking about political agenda or anything morally ambiguous by the way, I’m referring to habits.
This is about those sneaky little things that take over our life and cause us to do things that are perhaps not conducive to progression in the end.
Upon browsing the plethora of solid questions you all ask I’ve noticed a pattern in regards to coming up against that barrier we all have.
Long standing habits.
Most of you fall victim to your habits and thus throw out every excuses under the sun, which is of course your right to do, however that type of behaviour won’t necessarily get you what you want in the end.
In the answers to your questions that other members and myself post it is mentioned that you need to seek out what they (your habits) are and more importantly what causes them (your triggers), yet sometimes this key piece of information if missed as there is no direct answer how to do this, apart from data collection.
I get it you know, when we ask a question we want an answer, preferably one that fits in to our bias/paradigm however this is sadly not how it works.
Establishing our habits, routines and their triggers that send us to the cookie jar takes time.
A lot of time in some cases.
Many of us are firmly routed in our current habit loops.
The good thing though is that they can be changed, the downside is that it will take time and conscience effort and that my friends is where many struggle because they don’t find the pain of change too comfortable.
Not to mention having to think about doing something is quite draining for some which can itself lead to an already linked habit, such as reaching for sweet treats because of the mental overload.
This happens in 4 stags for the most past.
1 – Cue (emotional, physical, environmental trigger)
2 – Craving (food, cigarette, etc)
3 – Response (habit activation/execution, emotional response)
4 – Reward (food, etc to give required neurotransmitter hit)
To find out what they potentially are you’d need to have a detailed diary of the following:
– Day to day routine breakdown
– How the client feels at each stage of the day
– Eating times/routine that leads them to this
– Common stress responses if their routine is broken
– Tasks and how stressful they find them
– Tasks they avoid
– Comfort zones/uncomfortable zones
The list can invariably go on, however seeking out the above can help you start to make great progress because most of our habits/responses are automatic because we have done them for so long they not happen without thought.
Provided the right circumstances (triggers) are met the habit activates and does its thing, and will continue to do so until it’s addressed.
This is not to say all habits are bad, however some are less favourable than others.
In taking the above in to consideration it becomes much easier to understand why we do what we do.
As I’ve mentioned to people many times of the the years –
“Nothing changes if nothing changes.”
While not the answer many want, it’s often the one they need to accept, this way we can move forwards in our understanding and help in the most effective ways possible.
In knowing they ‘why’ you can almost always find the ‘how’.
What current coaching tools to do you have in place to collect the required information from your routine behaviours so that you can find the triggers to the habits?
Share your thoughts, feelings and questions below.