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Triggers, what are yours?
I’m not talking about political agenda or anything morally ambiguous by the way, I’m referring to habits.
This is about those sneaky little things that take over our life and cause us to do things that are perhaps not conducive to progression in the end.
Upon browsing the plethora of solid questions you all ask I’ve noticed a pattern in regards to coming up against that barrier we all have.
Long standing habits.
Most of you fall victim to your habits and thus throw out every excuses under the sun, which is of course your right to do, however that type of behaviour won’t necessarily get you what you want in the end.
In the answers to your questions that other members and myself post it is mentioned that you need to seek out what they (your habits) are and more importantly what causes them (your triggers), yet sometimes this key piece of information if missed as there is no direct answer how to do this, apart from data collection.
I get it you know, when we ask a question we want an answer, preferably one that fits in to our bias/paradigm however this is sadly not how it works.
Establishing our habits, routines and their triggers that send us to the cookie jar takes time.
A lot of time in some cases.
Many of us are firmly routed in our current habit loops.
The good thing though is that they can be changed, the downside is that it will take time and conscience effort and that my friends is where many struggle because they don’t find the pain of change too comfortable.
Not to mention having to think about doing something is quite draining for some which can itself lead to an already linked habit, such as reaching for sweet treats because of the mental overload.
This happens in 4 stags for the most past.
1 – Cue (emotional, physical, environmental trigger)
2 – Craving (food, cigarette, etc)
3 – Response (habit activation/execution, emotional response)
4 – Reward (food, etc to give required neurotransmitter hit)
To find out what they potentially are you’d need to have a detailed diary of the following:
– Day to day routine breakdown
– How the client feels at each stage of the day
– Eating times/routine that leads them to this
– Common stress responses if their routine is broken
– Tasks and how stressful they find them
– Tasks they avoid
– Comfort zones/uncomfortable zones
The list can invariably go on, however seeking out the above can help you start to make great progress because most of our habits/responses are automatic because we have done them for so long they not happen without thought.
Provided the right circumstances (triggers) are met the habit activates and does its thing, and will continue to do so until it’s addressed.
This is not to say all habits are bad, however some are less favourable than others.
In taking the above in to consideration it becomes much easier to understand why we do what we do.
As I’ve mentioned to people many times of the the years –
“Nothing changes if nothing changes.”
While not the answer many want, it’s often the one they need to accept, this way we can move forwards in our understanding and help in the most effective ways possible.
In knowing they ‘why’ you can almost always find the ‘how’.
What current coaching tools to do you have in place to collect the required information from your routine behaviours so that you can find the triggers to the habits?
Share your thoughts, feelings and questions below.
1 – Keep a food diary (write down everything that passes your lips, EVERYTHING).
This will give you some perspective and control over your self, if you’re willing to accept responsibility.
2 – Walk 30 minutes every day
Its good for the mind and the soul.
3 – Read more real books, you know of the paper variety
Spending less time in front of a screen has been said to help reduce stress, anxiety and other such modern day issues.
Ironic you jus tread that one via an online blog.
4 – Buy a Kettlebell(s)
Some people don’t like the gym, this little piece of kit is known for being a ‘gym in the palm of your hand’. Doing 20-45min a day of things such as Swings, Get Ups, Snatches, Presses, Carries, Loaded Stretches, Mobility or movement patterns. These will not only help change your body, it will help your mind as well.
5 – Ensure most, if not all of your meals are meat & veg
You’d be surprised what eating ‘whole foods’ will do for your health and your waistline.
6 – Each year aim to learn a new skill, or invest a good chunk of time in to mastering one
Perhaps you always wanted to learn a language, or how to paint, maybe it was knitting related, whatever it was set aside perhaps one or two hours or so a week to learning and acquiring this.
It’s not selfish to want time for yourself.
In the long run you’ll lead a much fuller life if you devote some time to adding strings to your body, not to mention it can are a great way to relieve stress.
There are certain words in the world that make me cringe whenever I hear them uttered. One such word is the herald of all things we know we should do but justify doing, all because of this word;
Everything in moderation, including moderation.
This word has been bandied around and to me has lost it’s meaning. People have begun to rely on it as a crutch, where it was once a great way of people feeling a slight relief from pressure it has now become the norm for something more problematic;
The word moderation by definition means the avoidance of excess or extremes, especially in one’s behaviour or political opinions, but people have become so used to using it as an excuse that moderation is no longer moderation, it’s habit.
Having a little of what you want is essential to a good life, but having it everyday without fail is a habit.
Heed my words, I am not trying to stop people having what they enjoy but I am trying to bring some awareness to light because what was once a great tool have now become a crutch.