The 3 Strike Approach
A classic concept from baseball: 3 strikes and you’re out. Interestingly, in bowling, 3 strikes in a row is called a “Turkey.” Now that we’ve piqued your interest with that bit of trivia, let’s explore how to apply this principle when dealing with clients.
The basic approach follows these three stages:
Strike 1 – Support and Clarification “How can I best help you? Is there anything more I can do for you? I want to ensure you don’t feel lost and that you achieve your desired results.”
Strike 2 – Collaboration and Problem-Solving “How do you think we ought to approach this? What can we do together to help you improve [insert specific problem]?”
Strike 3 – Accountability and Action Planning “How are you going to change/apply [insert behavior or desired action] moving forward?”
As you can see, these questions represent a gradual yet deliberate shift in responsibility. Let’s break down the process:
- First Strike: Initially, it’s our duty as coaches to shoulder the responsibility. We may have missed something or not fully understood our client’s needs or communication style. By asking what more they need or want from us, we aim to get the client to explain where they need help and how we can best provide it.
- Second Strike: If the client is still bringing up the same issues despite you providing what they said they needed, it’s time to address the secondary struggle within the same premise. At this point, you can reference your previous discussion and ask if they’ve used or applied what you both previously discussed and they directly asked for. This can reveal one of two things: a) They didn’t apply themselves b) They didn’t really know what help to ask for initially, but now they do The second scenario is common, which is why the second strike focuses on mutual effort and interdependence, allowing you to guide and the client to grow.
- Third Strike: If the client hasn’t applied themselves, they move to this stage. Here, you need to establish what they are prepared to do and have them document it. They need to accept and take responsibility at this stage, as it’s the only way they will break their cycle of dependence.
Important Note: If an entirely new issue arises, the strike count starts over.
This approach is focused on empowering people to make their own choices deliberately. While we could do all the thinking for them, it may not help in the long run. This method promotes personal growth and self-efficacy.
By using the 3 Strike Approach, you create a structured framework for client interactions that balances support, collaboration, and personal responsibility. It allows for flexibility in addressing client needs while gradually shifting the onus of action onto the client, fostering their independence and growth.