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Regardless of what you do that is good, well executed or just plain awesome, you’ll probably be remembered for your faults, failures and inherent flaws.
Good old human nature.
While we enjoy sharing in peoples success, sometimes.
It is in watching people fail, stumble or fall that really grabs our interest.
We know this, painfully so.
This is often one reason that people won’t ever really go for the things they desire because if it all goes wrong people won’t be so quick to forget.
Knowing what we know, how do we best approach it?
Is it in the subtle art of not giving a F**K?
They attitude of ‘this person can’?
Could it be just doing things because we want to?
It might be just accepting the fact that people will think, say and act how they want and there is little we will ever be able to do to change that.
There are many answers, each of them correct.
We are often told not to care what others think, however from my experience this is not useful because we do care.
In our lives there will always be people we want to impress, gain respect from or just get a nod of approval.
To deny this is foolish.
If you truly didn’t what others thought there would be little to no motivation to do anything, well, for many people anyway.
It takes a rare individual to be able to consciously achieve anything under the guise of pure self-actualisation.
These people of course do exist, yet they are the exception to the rule, people like you & I though we are not the exceptions, we are the ones who the rule applies to whether we like it or not.
This is okay, being the one the rule applies to.
It give your meaning, purpose and focus if you accept what is. People will remember all the bad shit, because that’s just what we are like, it helps us bring people down to the level we think we are on and protects us from feeling like failures ourselves.
Knowing this, accepting it, that is what helps you let go of such things and how much they matter. Even if you won’t admit it.
You do care what people think, I know you do so there is no sense in lying about it.
It’s okay to care.
In actual fact, it makes things more worth while, try not to forget that.
Three reasons why people don’t like the truth.
1 – It forces them to become accountable.
2 – It provides no quick fix and confirms no bias.
3 – It often makes them feel bad.
Looking at the above and accepting the simper fact that often what we need to hear makes us uncomfortable is something we have to deal with, and yet a great many people KNOW this is the case, they just choose to bury their head in the sand a feign ignorance.
Guys, ignorance isn’t bliss, it’s just ignorance.
It doesn’t protect you, if anything it causes you more problems and makes you look like a mug, honestly.
In out world of magical quick fixes, surgical procedures and wonder drugs we are becoming very delusional, or rather willingly blind and ready to give up our freedom to fall in to the middle ground.
Of course people can choose how they live, they will say, yet is this really best?
Many will fall back on a cop out answer that sits firmly on the fence because they’re scared of speaking out, of having an opinion, in claiming a mind of their own.
Do you know where this fear comes from?
It’s surmised to be a habitual trait passed down genetically from times where we lived in small tribes and that ostracism from said tribe meant death, therefor we will subconsciously do what ever it takes to fit our square selves in to round holes.
Do you know what, I get it. I understand that fear.
Yet letting it rule you is not always the best option, especially in a social setting, have you ever noticed that your circle of friends will support you in only so much as so that they can still keep a hold over you, keep you in your place in the dominance hierarchy.
People always say the want you to do well, what they mean is that they want you to do well so long as it doesn’t compromise their own status or make the question their place.
If you start reaching for more and climbing out of the hole the other who are still there will pull you back down, much like crabs do when they have been caught and thrown in to a bucket.
^^ Yep, this little crab fact is true.
This is where the truth comes in to play.
It’s easier to go with the majorities convenient truth than it is to seek out what you may find it actually the truth.
I won’t lie to you and say it’s easy, it’s not.
In fact it’s very scary and will force you in to places of thought you never knew existed, you will be uncomfortable, stressed, perhaps even feel like you’re fighting for your very survival once you leave the comfort of the group, and yet it is the only way you will ever grow.
Organisms, even complex ones like us humans need stressors. We need them to make us adapt, become more resilient, to survive and become stronger, better and evolve.
Without stress of this magnetite, without truth there can be no evolution, something worth thinking about.
Take the time to have a look at your life.
Does it challenge you anymore?
Does it fill you with equal amounts excitement and dread?
Does it have you yearning for more?
As they say, the truth will set you free.
We have those who do, those who don’t, and everyone else.
Where do you fall?
Have you ever wondered why some people succeed where others fail?
What is the reason for it.
Is it because of their upper hand starting in life, the people they associate with, good luck or perhaps some divine intervention?
It might be some or all of those reasons, or maybe, just maybe it could be the simple truth that they just wanted it more then everyone else.
Have you ever considered that?
When it comes to achievement this is often how it looks:
Initial praise fades
Plateaus begin to appear
Get ready butter cup things are about to get hard
Dues paid for the require amount of time
More dues paid
A few more dues
The last couple of dues
Long term life changing success
The part people forget to tell you is that to achieve anything you need to be prepared to work for it and this important little gem:
YOU DO WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE, NOT WHAT YOU WANT TO DO.
Now it’s fair to say that not everyone will survive, that’s just a sad truth. Did you know that sometimes paying your dues can take you a lifetime, just something to remember.
This is where some introspection is required.
Do you have what it takes to weather the storm and do what needs to be done or not?
If the answer is ‘you don’t’ it’s okay, put that endeavour to bed and move on, not everyone is meant to succeed after all.
However, if you’re that rare individual who knows they can survive and do what needs to be done then you brave the storm, then once you’ve given all you have you come out the other side and are welcomed/rewarded for your efforts.
Congratulations, you succeeded.
I would love to say that everyone will succeed, I can’t, they won’t.
Which side will you end up on?
The one looking to the horizon of wishes and dreams or the one who makes it past the horizon and sees what the other side has to offer?
What is there to write about training anymore?
The internet is filled with so much content, it’s almost impossible to read it all.
Keeping this in mind it’s probably best to keep things simple and hopefully point you in the right direction and to do that we need to circle back around to the basics and the simple sciences of training.
What should you look to circle back to first?
– Energy Systems
These are essential for understanding how the body works and what fuel is used for what training styles (aerobic – fat, anaerobic – glucose etc), here is a nice resource for that:
Next it has to be muscle anatomy.
– Muscle Structure
Once you know how they work you can conclude what style of training is best for your goal. Here are a couple of links:
One last topic that is crucial to have a basic underrating of in training is hormones.
– Testosterone, Cortisol and everything in-between.
This is a massive topic yet it’s one people ignore all the time and it really shouldn’t be. Your hormones are influenced not only by training but also your nutrition, sleep, life style and mach more, thus it is worth knowing how they work and what they do.
Above are some starting links to help you on your way, however it’s worth remembering that the body is a complex organism and if you don’t want to do the digging yourself then you’ll do well to hire a coach/trainer who can do it all for you.
Remember the basics, without those nothing else can be understood.
Everyone want’s to succeed, yet not everyone will… Unless you take heed of these sage words.
1 – It doesn’t happen overnight, there’s always a lot of work that goes on behind the scenes.
2 – If you’re not upsetting people you’re not pushing the boundaries you need to.
3 – Success doesn’t care if you’ve had a bad day, feel ill or made a mistake, regardless of circumstance success will still demand sacrifice for it’s fruits.
4 – Hitting the pinnacle is a privilege, not a right.
5 – If not you, it will be someone else.
6 – You’ll have to keep doing more and more and more to boost your skill because no one starts out good at anything and if they do they never amount to anything because they take that gift fro granted.
Chances are you ready know the above, most people do yet they still feel they’re entitled to some sort of success when this is not the case, nor has it ever been. If you want something you’d better be prepared to work your ass off for it.
High reps, low sets are popular for getting in a lot of volume, however you can do the same by using submit weights and lower reps and we shall look at why you should be doing this.
Why use low reps higher sets to hit a daily volume goal?
1 – You use a higher % of 1RM – say 85% (a technical 6RM) for multiple sets of 2-3 reps until you hit perhaps a 50 rep target. 16-25 sets required.
2 – It stimulates more muscle due to it being a higher relative load, more muscle fibres used means more adaptive need, this means more progress.
3 – Lifting heavier weights is more fun and provides what is called ‘functional hypertrophy’ – essentially you’re strong and look good, rather than just looking good with nothing back it up.
4 – It’s way more fun.
Here is a simple structure to use:
High volume workout – 80%+ 1RM – 50 reps – 3 lifts per session: these don’t have to be the sam lift each workout, cover the following movement patterns across the week for optimal results.
– Full body – snatch, clean/jerk etc)
– Loaded carry – farmers walk, sand bag carry and so on
– Hinge – deadlift
– Squat – umm well… a squat, obviously
– Pull – Chin up or row perhaps
– Push – Press or a dip
^^ The options are endless, just pick a moment and find a lift to go with it.
Train movements for miracles.
Moderate volume workout – 80%+ 1RM – 30 reps – 3 lifts per session
Low volume workout – 80%+ 1RM – 10 reps – 3 lifts per session
This volume cycling will allow you to get some much needed recover if you start feeling beaten up, you can utilise the H-M-L as you see fit. A weekly loading high look like this:
M – H
T – M
W- L – or off
T – H
S – M
S – L or off
Aim for 80-210 reps of volume per movement per week.
If you lift heavier weights more often you will find a lot of benefit to strength, muscle mass, fat loss and less boredom from doing endless high rep pump sets.
That’s what Fat Loss is all about.
^^ Essentially this is how you lose fat or gain it.
There are plenty of ways you can approach nutrition, however experience has shown that the simpler you keep it the more chance for success you will have.
If you follow these 5 steps you’ll be off to a great start.
1 – Buy a diary to track what you eat daily
2 – Write down everything you eat/drink
3 – Honestly assess the amount/quality of what you consume
4 – Pick one element to start changing – EG: smaller portions
5 – Stick with this change for 3 weeks then add the next change
Chaining your nutritional habits requires a commitment and most importantly a lifestyle change. If you break this down in to small manageable chunks you’ll find they are easier to stick with.
Can you ever go back to the nutrition you had?
Yes you can, you will also find your health/body back in the same place it was as too, keep that in mind.
Do you want to know what they don’t tell you about those 12 week transformations you see?
The person involved usually tried several times before to achieve the results they now have but they were missing a few vital things:
– Adherence in everything they were told to do
– A coach/trainer
– Knowledge of their previous failures
The last one is probably one of the more interesting points because people who often succeed the most are the ones who actually learnt from their failures and accepted them being their fault (9/10 times that is, there will always be exceptions yet most of the time it’s always on us when we fail).
Have you ever heard of the 5 stages of grief?
Do you know that people actually go through this sequence for a great many things. Take a fitness transformation for example:
– They deny they could have ever achieved it
– They get angry because of what got in the way: work, partners etc
– They start to make deals with themselves such as “When I get XYZ done I will do this for me.” and they don’t follow them through
– They sadly fall in to their old habits and potentially seek solace in food or alcohol
– Eventually they accept they just gave up and carry on with life… or at least that’s what we hope.
From experience people get stuck in the depression part of the cycle and occasionally fall back to the first stage and keep repeating 1 through 4, this is not nice to see but it does happen, sadly.
Take a second and ask yourself honestly, has this been/ever been or is this you?
If the above question rings true, don’t worry about it. Many of us have been there, even the people you admire/aspire to be like have been there. The only difference is being honest with yourself and accepting past failures and WHY they happened (chances are it was our own fault 98% of the time), that way you can let it go and seek the help you need.
I know you can achieve your goal but before you start making a change to your body you should make the change mentally first.
Success is something that everyone wants in some way. Whether that success is in the form of admiration, respect, more muscle, a faster 10k time or even just to gain more self confidence, success is success and everyone deserves it.
I often get asked by people about how to succeed or what the best way to success is and over the years I have found that this missing element is often what hold people back and causes them to lose their way.
Some of you will like this answer, others won’t, but that doesn’t stop it from being one of the most important factors in getting to the goal you desire.
Here is it:
Ask for help when you need it and accept responsibility for for the effort you put in.
Okay, that’s two things but both equally important.
Asking for help will give you the opportunity to avoid the pitfalls that other people have fallen in to. Accepting responsibility for the effort you put in will hold you accountable, if you give anything less than YOUR 100% then my friends you will struggle every step of the way.
Take heed in these words because they come from experience. I have made more mistakes than I care to admit, some have cost nothing and others came with a price tag far above what I wanted to pay but that’s life. Learn from those around you and don’t be afraid to ask for help, it doesn’t take anything away from your success, after all, it doesn’t matter what route you take to the top of the mountain when in the end the view will always be the same.