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There is always a lot of conflicting information in the world.
Be that from points of view based on experience, or substantial evidence that goes against a persons long held beliefs.
Now there isn’t much I can teach people about mindset, not really.
Most know as much as they will ever need to know.
It doesn’t matter if they are correct in their assumption or not, as far as they care, they know enough and that’s cool.
We are not really hear to tell people what should or shouldn’t be done, if we did it takes away their responsibility or at least their need to claim responsibility for their own choice.
It’s easy to say “I did X because Y told me to.”.
This is something we do from a young age because we are conditioned to follow orders, yet ironically not he other side of the coin we are told to think, act, feel and do four ourselves, so long as it fits in with everyone else’s & the larger agenda.
Much conundrum there is.
Be kind, but not too kind you become a door mat.
Be strong, but not too strong you become cold.
Be confident, but not too confident.
The list goes on.
I’d like you to sit and just think about yourself for a second.
What do you want?
Honestly, just you, clear your mind of all the initial thoughts because the chances they are not your thoughts is very high, they are conditioned ideas & responses, they’re not your responses.
Freedom of thought, such a scary thing when you’re used to being told how to think for so long.
So I will ask again, what do YOU want?
I don’t just mean fitness related by the way.
Take some time out, away from the world and all it’s technology and just sit quietly, don’t dwell on thoughts that come in, let them come and go, eventually you will start to hear your own thoughts and not everyone else’s.
Is your goal really your own?
A question more people should ask themselves.
How often have you heard of people achieving their goal only to be left feeling unsatisfied or unfulfilled?
You’d be surprised to find out that it’s actually quite common.
There are many people who undergo certain tasks to achieve what they think they want, when in reality they’re achieving what they’ve been told they want.
A very common state of affairs.
Have you ever honestly sat down and thought about why you’re doing what you’re doing?
I’d be surprised if you had, pleasantly surprised.
Knowing the underlying reasons is key to long term success and sustainability.
That said, it’s not something people give much thought to.
Might be worth considering before you set your next goal.
Two classic lines said by many –
“I can’t put on weight, and I eat loads.”
“I can’t lose weight, and I don’t eat much.”
If the above were true weight would either go up or down, if that isn’t the case then that means only one thing.
You’re not doing what you think you’re doing.
A strong mindset and accountability are interesting things.
Not everyone wants them.
Instead they a quick fix or diet pill to solve all their problems.
If it came to their work and the staff they manage or their business they’d rain down fiery hell on their staff for not doing what they’re meant to be doing or making poor excuses, however when it comes to themselves and making a change, well they’re different and need special attention.
What we all need is to accept that the only way to change is to accept that we are the result of our own choices, for the most part*.
*Less for legitimate medical exceptions in which case see a specialist.
Actually, touching on the medical excuse above, many will claim to have an issue, self diagnosed of course and it stops them achieving a result.
Go see a specialist, if something is wrong it will be shown, then you can start working to sort it.
Anyway, back to the point.
As a modern culture we have an untold amount of excuses ready and waiting for our own poor behaviours/attitudes, yet we wouldn’t accept them from out staff or people we’re responsible for.
We’d tell them how it was and that they need to sort it out.
Yet when it comes to people accepting they’re the problem, the blinkers come down and the ‘poor me’ attitude follows.
Ask yourself, do I want change or not?
Give it some thought.