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Is your goal really your own?
A question more people should ask themselves.
How often have you heard of people achieving their goal only to be left feeling unsatisfied or unfulfilled?
You’d be surprised to find out that it’s actually quite common.
There are many people who undergo certain tasks to achieve what they think they want, when in reality they’re achieving what they’ve been told they want.
A very common state of affairs.
Have you ever honestly sat down and thought about why you’re doing what you’re doing?
I’d be surprised if you had, pleasantly surprised.
Knowing the underlying reasons is key to long term success and sustainability.
That said, it’s not something people give much thought to.
Might be worth considering before you set your next goal.
Two classic lines said by many –
“I can’t put on weight, and I eat loads.”
“I can’t lose weight, and I don’t eat much.”
If the above were true weight would either go up or down, if that isn’t the case then that means only one thing.
You’re not doing what you think you’re doing.
A strong mindset and accountability are interesting things.
Not everyone wants them.
Instead they a quick fix or diet pill to solve all their problems.
If it came to their work and the staff they manage or their business they’d rain down fiery hell on their staff for not doing what they’re meant to be doing or making poor excuses, however when it comes to themselves and making a change, well they’re different and need special attention.
What we all need is to accept that the only way to change is to accept that we are the result of our own choices, for the most part*.
*Less for legitimate medical exceptions in which case see a specialist.
Actually, touching on the medical excuse above, many will claim to have an issue, self diagnosed of course and it stops them achieving a result.
Go see a specialist, if something is wrong it will be shown, then you can start working to sort it.
Anyway, back to the point.
As a modern culture we have an untold amount of excuses ready and waiting for our own poor behaviours/attitudes, yet we wouldn’t accept them from out staff or people we’re responsible for.
We’d tell them how it was and that they need to sort it out.
Yet when it comes to people accepting they’re the problem, the blinkers come down and the ‘poor me’ attitude follows.
Ask yourself, do I want change or not?
Give it some thought.
– It is your fault and only you can change it
– 4 week ‘programs’ aren’t a real program, it’s just a series of simper workouts to keep your mind occupied and any results that come from it will only be significant if you’re a pure beginner.
– To see significant results you’ll need to invest in a minimum of 3-6months of personal training.
– Their social media is largely a lie geared towards selling you their product.
– You’ll never hear about the clients that didn’t get results and why it happened, here’s a hint (both parties are to blame, however the coach takes the majority of this one as it’s often down to poor communication/coaching from the coach).
– Your excuse, no matter how logical, is still an excuse.
– This is their lively hood and all the time you dick about, slack off in training, forego behaviour change and don’t do what you NEED to be doing, the worse it looks for their reputation.
After being in the industry for many a year now, I can say with a clear conscious that I no longer have time for people who don’t want to help themselves.
I really don’t care.
A lot of coaches/trainers will literally bend over backwards to help you, however if you’re not willing to help yourself then why should anyone else?
When someone newly qualifies in to the fitness industry they’re told to be motivational, inspirational, caring, empathetic and selfless, however this can often cause them personal strife and this shouldn’t be the case.
In your current job would you accept a member of staff who wasn’t pulling their weight?
No, you’d give them a reprimand and if it continued to happen you’d sack them.
You wouldn’t accept a poor attitude or behaviour, keeping this in mind, why should trainers/coaches be any different?
Nothing more than a rant today.