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“Do what makes you happy.”
As good as that quote sounds, it’s not very logical 😂
In regards to training I have to admit that it’s far better for someone to train in a way they enjoy because it will be far more sustainable in the long run.
That being said, if the specific goal they have requires specific styles of training that they don’t enjoy then we have a problem.
Personally my view is that how you feel, perform and look will be the result of your lifestyle & training.
They are all interlinked byproducts.
For example; you might be an endurance athlete who can smash endless miles yet your body doesn’t reflect this amazing ability due to the fact you drink like a fish.
Same is true for people who seems themselves as body builders that train like demons and eat like hippos, they may fill out a T-shirt yet it’s mostly wth fat instead of lean mass.
We are the product of our choices.
Thus my question to you lovely people.
Does your health, performance & aesthetic reflect your life choices?
More specifically do those three things reflect what you want or not?
Many wish for more, yet refuse to change to allow it to happen.
A little word of advice before we go.
If you wish to be a certain way then look to those who have that which you seek and do what they do because the mantra of ‘find what works for you’ isn’t as useful as you might think.
Instead just find what works and do that thing.
Give it some thought.
Do you wonder what your ‘mid-life crisis’ is going to look like?
Could it end up being the classic mixture of getting tattoos, a entirely new wardrobe to regain lost rebellious youth and maybe a bike too.
I guess you could be one of those who leaves their partner, home and comfortable life for someone 10+ years younger and partying on school nights.
Working in fitness you’ll find you see this happen a lot.
People getting results and aesthetic change often being the catalyst.
While we say looks don’t matter they do, as does the attention that comes with them.
True enough some very unique people get a lot attention and yet they never seem to hold on to a persona or settle down.
The sad reason why is because such people are often seen as a fetish, you know something that you want to do behind closed doors yet wouldn’t want to be seen in the light of day with.
This doesn’t mean they’re a bad person or not worth anything else other than being a fetish, however that’s just how it goes.
Sadly I’ve seen it happen many many times over.
Same is true for those who once upon a time were the object of everyones desire & attention, able to pick and choose at will.
Yea that fades over time and they too are cast to the margin bin. From all perspectives it can be quite the knock to a persons confidence.
It won’t change anytime soon and as such the mid-life crisis will always be a thing.
They usually reignite some of the embers of attention that was once a roaring flame, and to some that’s enough, for now.
Of course this too will die out eventually.
Once that happens you’ll be left with a bike you never ride, tattoos that you don’t like and a head full of bad memories.
I’m sure you know someone who has had, or perhaps is going through this time in their life, maybe it all started when they began going to the gym.
Who knows, just some food for thought.
If you do happen across people in this situation try to understand it from their point of view and more importantly why they feel as they do.
Knowing how someone feels can be the biggest step in helping them, especially if you get it too.
Hopefully it will also help you avoid the same pitfall.
Sharing our experience, knowledge and understanding is all many of us can do to help others grow.
“I can tell you everything you NEED to know yet it won’t be what you WANT to know and because of this truth you’ll reject me.”
^^ I heard that recently, really made me think.
There are certain doors in our mind that will remain shut until the day we’re ready to open them, and to tell you the truth that day may never come.
In the sots you’ve perhaps read on here over the years you’ll find the topics vary somewhat however they are largely bis toward fitness/training.
Which makes sense as this is a fitness related page 😂
Everything that is shared has no ulterior motive.
It’s simply shared because it can be.
Some find things useful, others don’t, that’s life and in the end something that we will just have to accept because we’ve got no other choice.
Speaking of training, lately I’ve been doing a fair amount of higher rep work.
Things such as 10×20, or 20×10, 20 down to 1, 25×5 and other high volume madness.
After spending a fair few years doing no more than 6 reps on big lifts (often no more than 3 in reality) I felt there was a need for change because my mental strength has wained somewhat.
Yep, I got lazy and was merely running through the motions.
In most session to be fair and I used a lot of different logical justifications for this when in reality I was just being lazy because I’d lost the oomph and joy for lifting I once had.
This happens to us all because after the peak there will always be a cliff.
I fell off that cliff and while now at a higher low point the the previous one I was in (strength/ability wise etc), it was still a drop off from what was.
I didn’t want to accept the fact I now had another mountain to climb ahead of me.
Thus I warped reality to suit what I wanted to believe.
^^ Sounds familiar to you?
Anyway, back to the point.
We try to stay on the peak and begin to lift the same weights, perform the same movements, attempt to train at the same level of intensity all to remain on our self appointed pedestal.
Our ego won’t allow us to gracefully step down.
As such reality comes along and gives us a rather vicious push.
I get it you know.
It’s hard to accept that many things in life come in the form of peaks and valleys.
This is why these days I quite like this question:
‘Are you progressing?’
^^ or moving forwards, or learning, or adapting or whatever you wish to call it.
I also like to ask it 5 times because the first 2-4 are often hyperbole and the last one can yield the true/real answer.
Combine this with also asking ‘why?’ and you’ve got a potent mix for some internal growth and learning.
Be warned though because it’s not comfortable.
To truly accept all that you are and become who you want to be you must first accept all the things you are not and that you pretend to be all to keep up appearances.
^^ That shit is hard.
So my dear readers, if you’ve made it this far I applaud you.
It’s fair to say I ramble on a fair bit.
Now that you are here though ask yourself the following three questions:
– Am I really progressing?
– What do I not address (in life, training etc) and why?
– Is this really me or just what I think I should be?
If you’re up for it leave your answers in the comments section below with they all important ‘why’.
In fitness you’ll find many tomes.
Each has its own unique benefits, limitations and place in the realm known as physical culture.
You can probably guess I’ve followed a few over the years.
Becoming embroiled in one thought process is easily done, especially if it’s spoken with enough conviction. In the 70’s we had body building, the 80’s had step, the 90’s was functions training and the last couple of decades brought us CrossFit & HIIT and more recently Movement Culture.
As mentioned above, all have their good points and in truth once you find one that keeps you consistently training you’ll feel great, or at least a part of something bigger than yourself.
I’ve personally been in the industry a fair while now, a literal lifetime when compared to the age of some young adults just stepping in to the field.
In this span I’ve seen trends come and go.
Plus there are a few things that have stayed and will always remain important.
- Mobility & Movement
- Enjoyment (purpose)
You might love running, if so cool you go run just be aware of what running is lacking from the above (strength).
Perhaps you’re a powerlifter, great just be sure to fill in the missing gaps (health, mobility & movement).
I’m sure you can see where I’m going with this.
On a personal note I don’t really care what people do so long as they are doing it for the right reasons, that being it means something to them that is at the live of their very soul, none of this superficial bullshit, got no time for such pointless things.
Do you love what you do?
No, really, can you say without any doubt you love what you do (in the gym, this kinda applies for life as well – just saying).
If you have any hesitation or have to justify your answer then somethings not right.
You’ll find many a doctrine in fitness, ideal if you find one that have the elements mentioned above that’s the most optimal one, however it’s also rare.
Oh, before I forget, it’s okay to create your own style you know. Learn from all the single views of the big picture and eventually you’ll have quite the impressive view to which you can then give back to the realm of fitness by creating something of your own.