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Expectations vs Reality

Do you know what is actually achievable from training?
 
In our modern odd world it’s easy to have the lines blurred.
 
Growing up with classic 80’s, early 90’s cartoons and action stars such as Stallone, Schwarzenegger, Lindgren, Van-damme, Lee, plus a boat load of other physical specimens it’s easy to see why the world has some distorted views.
 
I shared a book with a close friend recently.
 
This book was apparently quite eye opening to him.
 
Of course over the years I had tried to convey many of the messages found in said book yet they all fell on deaf ears.
 
The combination of body dysmorphia, unrealistic expectations and wrapped social media/movie/anime images had set quite the distorted image of what was real and what wasn’t.
 
The book is ‘Your Muscular Potential’ by Dr Casey Butt.
 
A very good read for those looking to lift the veil, you’ll potentially enjoy his website too as it contains all the calculators mentioned in his book:
 
 
Believe it or not you might be near your maximum muscular potential, that is if you’re of a decent level of leanness.
 
Filling out a t-shirt is easy when your fat so if size if your prize you might do well to ask yourself this; is it legitimate lean mass and size I’m after or just being big due to being fat?
 
^^ Food for thought.
 
Beware of what you follow in the world wide web.
 
You might be being lead astray.
 
Once you learn what is realistic and what isn’t (without ‘enhancement’) you’ll find quite the weighty stress removed from your shoulders.
 
Enjoy,
Ross

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***Warning, contains truth***

If you dislike an objective view of things then you best stop reading.

You won’t be judged, shamed or have your profile smeared.

Yet if you are someone interested in hearing a few bitter pills to swallow then please continue on.

I’ve heard many a conversation in many a gym over the years.

In the last decade though there has been an underlying tone in a lot of them; life, the world or however you describe it seems to owe ‘them’ (the collective them, as in everyone) something.

The world, people, what/whoever doesn’t own you jack shit.

Honestly.

In this life while there are those born with a silver spoon in far better stead than others and are presented all the opportunities, that doesn’t mean that just because you haven’t had this that you’re owed something.

People have become very weak-minded these days.

Take the example above, I’m sure you know someone who has it all.

They never asked for it all, they just happened to be one of those few who happened to get it due to the hard work and sacrifice of someone in their daily at some point.

Same will be true for your progeny.

Whatever you achieve and the foundations you lay will be used but hem to get a better foothold in life.

The people of the 20’s, 30’s, 40’s all did this for their young.

Then there was a time of bountiful harvests, follow day people gaining the attitude of being entitled and this is where things started to go wrong.

Sadly we are entitled to nothing in this life.

To be alive and have things as good as we have them is already a gift.

Don’t believe me?

If you’re reading this then I’d say you’ve already got it better than some who either will never have the chance to use modern technologies or others who have had their basic humans rights stripped away, not naming any northern countries or anything.

This is why I love fitness.

It keeps you humble because you don’t get results without effort, sacrifice and time given to the iron gods.

True enough some people have better genetics.

If you feel yours are lacking and that you should have better ones then I truly hope that txt time you choose to be born of better parents.

Think back to school, you had all the gifted kids and most of them now will be nothing more than a memory because they wasted the 3 space head start they had and rested on their laurels.

Anyone who gets a head start in life while lucky isn’t guaranteed success because the world doesn’t owe it to them, remember that.

So my dear friends, have you ever felt that you deserve more than you have?

That you’re owed something for nothing because reasons.

Sorry buttercup, you ain’t.

Neither am I.

We may not ever get what we feel we deserve, yet is what we feel we deserve actually what we are due? – Now there is a good thought.

Do what you can without the thought of reward just because you can.

In the end if you’ve given whatever you see as a priority everything you have to give you’ll probably be satisfied with what you have in the end.

Don’t except the world to cater to you for nothing.

Life doesn’t work that way for most of us.

Also if you’ve been one of the few to start severals steps ahead of the rest I am happy for you, truly. Now use that opportunity to do great things and don’t fuck it up.

To everyone else I will say one last thing….

There’s always a bigger fish.

Enjoy,
Ross

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Do I offend you with my questions?

There are two kinds of people in this world now.
 
Those who are willing to hear the truth.
 
Those who only want to her what they want.
 
We are now steeped in times of ferocious cognitive bias.
 
If you want to help people, to share information and give them some insight based on your experience so that they can delve in to a topic so that their own conclusions can be reached, you’re now evil.
 
The levels of offence of butt hurt that engulfs is quite something to behold.
 
Personally I’ve always enjoyed the “Triple Filter” test of Socrates.
 
– Is it true?
– Is it good/kind?
– Is it useful?
 
I tend to approach a lot of things I hear with this.
 
The first is often answered like this “Umm, I don’t actually know 100%.”, this is more than enough to peak my interest and delve a little more.
 
It is worth noting there are very few infallible truths in this life, the best we can hope to settle for is 98% certainty.
 
Holding on to a healthy dose of skepticism will get you a ing way in life because of the passion to learn.
 
If you’re content with what you know then you’ll stop growing.
 
The second question comes down to the style of information it is, essentially is it trying to genuinely oppose an opinion/thought/fact in a respectful way or is it nothing more than fluffed up slander?
 
Any that fall in to the latter will get asked this –
 
“Why did you say it that way?”
 
If there is a personal or emotional bias in it then the information is tainted, while not entirely dismissed it’s worth keeping in mind there may be a potential agenda behind it.
 
You should be able to represent a point or counter view respectfully, without emotion.
 
Sadly pure logic and rational though is not common.
 
Lastly, will the information help challenge you to grow, that to me makes it useful on a personal level.
 
In a general sense it can be related to completing a task, solving a problem or generally being useful.
 
A few closing words.
 
If something provokes a reaction in you, the chances are its what you need to listen to and consider might be higher than you’d like.
 
Emotional reactions mean we are attached to something, so we need to ask ourselves why, to question our beliefs so that we can continue to grow, otherwise what’s the point in anything.
 
Enjoy,
Ross

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3 Reasons you need to ask for help this New Year .

As silly as it seems, a lot of people won’t ask and for stupid reasons as well.
 
It is important to seek out others to support you.
 
Of course there are more than 3 reasons, however these are the most relevant.
 
1 – You can’t do it alone
 
Might seem obvious, yet so many will try and be a one-man band and tackle it all, then they wonder why everything is on mediocre at best.
 
The whole idea of you being a combination of the 5 people closest to you, its kinda like really true.
 
Give it some thought.
 
2 – Skill Gaps
 
As people we want to think we have all the skills we need, and this is sadly not the case for the majority of us, we need people we respect and trust at our side to fill in our gaps.
 
Take the PT business for example.
 
New people to the fray just about know how to train people, just about. In regards to business most have no clue on the following – Marketing, Taxes, Business Planning/Budget Management, the list can do on.
 
Yet even potentially knowing this they won’t seek out some guidance, often using money as the excuse, yes excuse because that is what you have business loans for to help you get your business up and running by hiring the people you NEED to help you succeed.
 
Many won’t, how do I know this?
 
I know more people who failed to stay in the business than actually stayed, and I see more people dropping out every day.
 
Ask for help, it will be worth it.
 
If your skill gaps are in say the knowledge of fat loss and that is your goal, then please hire one of the aforementioned PT’s.
 
3 – Being too scared to ask
 
This one is the easiest to understand.
 
People don’t want to seem weak, or like they can’t do something, I get it, it’s painful to admit you can’t do something and it makes you feel bad about yourself, however that is a mindset you’ve learned, you weren’t born with it.
 
Do you think a child feels bad when it’s learning to walk and keeps falling over?
 
No, it just keep doing what it needs to, and when it can’t do it alone it gets helps, either form a parent or something close enough to grab on to.
 
We are taught that asking for help is a bad thing from our earliest days in school.
 
Think about it, teachers would not give you the answer, they’d want to you find it for yourself, and while this is an incredibly useful skill it planted a seed that this is how we should do everything, and that is just not true.
 
In the working world if you don’t know something you must ask for help, less you completely balls up a project that could not only cost the company millions, it may also cost you your job.
 
Yet in knowing this we still fear asking for help.
 
To some the feel as if asking will put them below other people, they’d be someone to pity, subject to their benefactors benevolence, and whatever else you want to say.
 
This might be true, however once you’ve gotten the knowledge, or the skills and you know how to move forwards you many not need that specific person every again, however you do need what they know.
 
They weren’t wrong when they said that knowledge is power, because it is.
 
Better to ask a question and be thought a fool for a mere moment than stay silent and be branded foolish for life.
 
Give the above some thought and share your personal reasons below as to why you don’t, won’t ask of help.
 
Enjoy,
Ross

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How to make 2019 your year, no seriously this is how you WILL do what you haven’t for the last several.

2019 is fast approaching.
 
How will you make it your best year yet?
 
3 ideas that will lead to success in Fitness, Love & Life.
 
Morning all,
 
These sorts of posts will be rife unsocial media soon, so I felt I’d add in my two pennies worth as well.
 
One common pattern I’ve noticed is that almost everyone who saying things like –
 
“Next year is going to be my year.”
 
Only then to epically fail at making the year any different from previous ones all have this in common.
 
They don’t do anything differently, like nothing.
 
How can you expect change or a different results if you continue to perform the same things?
 
Now it might just be me who thinks this way, however that seems rather illogical, as such here is my views that you can choose to apply for change.
 
The tropes of “next year will be mine”
 
1 – Achieving a better body, no more XXL pants for me.
 
The reason internet guru’s and quick fix programs are still round is because people majorly suck at this part of the ‘best year yet’.
 
Why do they suck?
 
Many dislike the discomfort they have to endure to achieve anything notable, while I’d like to say you can make epic change without it, I can’t because it’s not true.
 
If this sounds like you then here is the answer you need.
 
Hire a trainer, a real one you can see face to face.
 
Before you say you don’t have the money, I’m sure you do, write down everything you spend on an average week and make note of what you don’t need, then chop it.
 
This is doubly true for things you WANT but don’t need because those funds can go towards a far better cause.
 
The money you invest in a good trainer will be worth it.
 
I can promise you that.
 
2 – I won’t let anymore deadbeats play with my heart.
 
Bahahahahahha, yea we both know that’s wishful thinking because you will go for the same type of person you always do, simply because they’re your type, obviously.
 
We get caught in this loop because of familiarity.
 
Deep in our subconscious we meet people we’ve met before, all because we know the subtle traits, which lets us to seek them out, and because they’re familiar we feel comfortable with them.
 
I bet you’re guilty of saying things like this “It’s like we’ve known each other for years, yet we only just met.” or the classic “We click, there’s a spark.”
 
Dear god pleas run.
 
Head for the hills immediately because this is only going to end one way, and you know it.
 
So, give the above how do you prevent this?
 
Go to places you’ve never been, step outside of your comfort zone, your circle of friends and venture out to make new circles and new friends.
 
If you go to the same places, do the same things you’ll always meet the sam people, trust me.
 
To find something you never knew you were looking for you need to go to places you’d never normally go, it is here you give yourself the chance to be happy by taking a leap of faith in to situations/places that you don’t know.
 
Go on, step outside your box and see the rest of the world, you never know who you might meet doing so.
 
Also, you might be better off on your own for a bit, another person might not give you what you think you need, if what you need is to be happy with who you are, in every aspect and element of ‘you’.
 
Sometimes moving forwards isn’t about doing it with someone else, sometimes it’s about knowing you’ll be alright doing it for yourself.
 
Better to be alone and be happy in yourself than to be with someone unhappily and change who you are for them because you can’t stomach the thought of not having someone in your life.
 
3 – I’m will do more things for me, time to be strong.
 
Admittedly this is more for those of you that are people pleasers.
 
You know who you are, basically door mats, mugs, that person everyone knows won’t object to anything asked of them because they fear being called a ‘bad friend’ or seen as ‘selfish’ and so on.
 
Don’t get me wrong, doing kind things and giving to other people is what makes life fulfilling, however there is a difference between doing this out of choice and some misplaced sense of obligation.
 
I’ve know a lot of people over they years who pride themselves on being that person people go to anything they need help, and bess them they’re too naive to see that their ‘friends’ are simply using them as a mean to and end.
 
Worst of all is that many who fall in to this description know this is the truth.
 
You know it too, don’t you….
 
Having some self-worth, some value in your time and not giving it away willy nilly to anyone who will abuse your generosity doesn’t make you a bad person, if anything it will derive more respect from people in the long run.
 
To stop being so scared of upsetting the world and it’s dog will be the first step to setting you free fro being everyones bitch.
 
Might sound harsh, however I’ve seen too many a good friend get drowned in this and not be abel to get themselves out, even with help.
 
The same thing happens in marriages too, so beware.
 
So apart from having more self-wroth and internal value, what else can you do?
 
Here is the biggest, and the hardest part of becoming free of this trope.
 
You ready?
 
Learning to say no, and actually mean it.
 
Your time is precious, you only have so much of it and by all means give it to people who appreciate it, who you truly care for, however don’t waste it being a dogsbody.
 
You’re a person too after all, you deserve as much respect and time as you give to others, never forget that.
 
There you have it, some things to consider for 2019.
 
If you have any questions please leave them below.
 
Enjoy,
Ross

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