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Is your goal really your own?
A question more people should ask themselves.
How often have you heard of people achieving their goal only to be left feeling unsatisfied or unfulfilled?
You’d be surprised to find out that it’s actually quite common.
There are many people who undergo certain tasks to achieve what they think they want, when in reality they’re achieving what they’ve been told they want.
A very common state of affairs.
Have you ever honestly sat down and thought about why you’re doing what you’re doing?
I’d be surprised if you had, pleasantly surprised.
Knowing the underlying reasons is key to long term success and sustainability.
That said, it’s not something people give much thought to.
Might be worth considering before you set your next goal.
Why do you do what you do?
Can you answer that very simple question with honesty and an answer(s) that you, yourself believe to be true, or will you answer it based on what you have been told to think by others. Just take a minute and think about it.
It is not uncommon for people to sit glazed over when that is asked of them. After all, how often do you get people questioning why you do things, or more importantly asking you to ask yourself why you do things. We think we know, we think they are our own choices, yet when we really sit and think, it becomes apparent that for most people that is not the case.
Often times we simply do the things we do because somewhere along the line we were told that’s how it had to be, how we had to be, how it all ‘should’ be.
Most of you will live other peoples dreams and spend your life wondering why you never feel fulfilled.
If we take the example of losing weight, a term that is not right for a lot of people, the correct term is FAT LOSS. You can cut of an arm and lose weight, you might not be happy that you;ve lost and arm but you’ve lost weight so you can’t complain, right?
Apologies, back to the point.
People look to lose fat because they think they should based on what they have been told by others, read that is written by others, seen in others and consider is the only acceptable course of action by others.
Can you see the problem.
A person will start out on a journey of self improvement based on the opinions, beliefs and values of someone else, they are doing it for someone else, not themselves. Is it any wonder people fail at so many things that they never really wanted. No, it isn’t.
When it comes to achieving a goal, you need three things:
– Hard Work (or work ethic)
Although those three things are important, if the goal of desire is not of your own choosing in the first place you will find more reasons/excuses to give up because you don’t really want it.
Your goals must mean something to you, they must be yours and yours alone. Do it for you, know why you’re doing it and tin doing this you will finally get that fulfilment you’ve been searching for.
Ask yourself again, why do you do what you do?