While chatting to a client last night the goal was to listen o their frustrations.
The didn’t feel for the effort they put in (to all aspects of their life) that they were getting their just desserts.
“My training is consistent.”
“My nutrition has been varied and clarions tracked.”
“My work has improved in both productivity and efficiency.”
“My life couldn’t be at a better point, and yet I’m not where I want to be, it’s so frustrating! I just start to think things will never change and just don’t know what the point is in keeping it all up.”
“I know things take time, I just want some hint it’s going to be worth it.”
A truly heartfelt frustration.
Often the effort we put into a great many things doesn’t yield the results we’d perhaps desire.
While this might not be fair it just is what it is.
I have friends who dislike that quote ‘it is what is is’, potentially because of it being the attitude of people who have become resigned to the deterministic philosophy due to their life experience in always knocking them down or the undeserving getting that which they feel should have been theirs.
It’s an understandable annoyance, yet these are also the same people that won’t outwardly express what is it hey want, or vocalise what is perhaps needed to be said to the right people, they often just sit and wait in the hope that they will get recognised just because they feel they should.
Sadly in this life if you want something you have to not only want it, work for it, or go for it, you must also make it known you want it by asking for it.
Fortune favours the bold or brave (depending now his quote you prefer).
It’s quite true. You’d be surprised what you can actually get simply by asking for it.
Anyway, back to the frustrated client above.
I was quite honest in telling them I didn’t know why they where not where they wanted to be or showered with glories praise, from an emotional standpoint that is.
From a training/empirical standpoint it’s been 3 weeks into their current training after they spent 5months being inconsistent and basically pissing about and making poor choices.
Yes I did tell them that directly because pandering isn’t what they needed and the simple truth is that you won’t often see much change in 3weeks, maybe 3 months or 3 years, however not 3 weeks. If you had dramatic change in such a short space of time, like say losing 2 stone I’d advise you go to the the doctor as you may have a terminal illness, yet this is the result people feel they deserve.
This was what prompted me to re-ask “What result/expectations do you feel you should have by now and why?, No, really, why? Why do you have the expectations you do?”.
Now for something a little bigger to consider, especially if you’ve felt/feel this way…..
Why out of all the people on this planet do you feel your the only one with these frustrations?
Why are you so special that the process should be different or miraculous?
Is it because you know someone who knows someone or you say it on social media?
Very few things in this life happen by accident. They are often an accumulation of minor, or major choices we’ve made or didn’t make and eventually they all come to fruition and result in X, Y or Z,which may or may not be your desired outcome.
As with any endeavour, even those that are truly frustrating, you must just accept that they will take time and perhaps be a tad more realistic with your expectations.
Frustration affects us all, yet like a lot of things they’re fleeting and not worth dwelling on.
Take a look around you, see that most other people are in the same boat and enjoy the journey because it’s rarely the destination that makes it worth while, it’s often the experiences you pick up along the way.