Are you in control of your emotions or are they in control of you?
Seems like a simple enough question to answer, it’s not.
You’d be surprised how many folk don’t really want to delve in to deep in to the emotional dregs that are weighing them down to find out which is the one causing all the other to pile up.
It’s surprisingly easy o know if someone is ruled by logic or feeling in a situation.
They either respond (logical) or they react (emotional).
Their tone of voice, pace, pitch, words spoken and often posture will give this away, not to mention some people faces just can’t lie.
Personally I’m like this, if something is utter tripe my face will let my fellow chatter companion know.
Another interesting bit of information about emotional reactions; it happens because it’s our egos way of protecting itself from death.
Yep, our ego fears its own death most.
Passional emotional reactions can usually end up linked to this, along with beliefs, values and occasionally a persons self proclaimed identity.
Don’t get me wrong, we need such things.
Without emotion we’d be no better than machines.
That being said, they can get in the way and control people for many years, a lifetime in some cases.
We link emotion to everything we do, literally
Once you can understand how and more importantly why then you will have a very powerful set of skills to help not only yourself but countless others as well.
Let us take food for example.
You will have a specific food that links to a specific emotion/feeling and when you’re not getting said emotion/feeling you will dive straight into the cupboard/fridge/freezer to pull out your crutch for that hit of instant gratification & feeling.
We subconsciously know this as well.
Why else do you think we ask people if they feel better after they’ve eaten?
We don’t ask them – “Are you nutritionally sustained from your meal?”.
No, we ask them how they feel and it they feel that they need any more or anything else.
Listening to the way people talk is an incredible skill.
Allowing each word to settle in your mind while also observing all the idiosyncrasies can really help you understand a person.
First though you must understand yourself.
“Because, if you can’t love yourself how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?Can I get an Amen?” – RuPaul
Give some though to the above, are you in control of your emotions or re they in control of you?