A friend of mine brought up a great point yesterday in a conversation.
‘If people know what they need to do to lose fat or achieve a gym based goal, and essentially how easy it is why is it they struggle? I feel it’s more the mental side of things that need addressing than the fact of calories in/calories out.’
^^ I’m paraphrasing, however that is the overall gist.
Solid point, right?
When it comes to the mental state of the masses I have one thing to say on the topic.
You, me and everyone else are broken.
Yep, many come from similar backgrounds of dysfunctional families, emotional traumas, social compromises and much more.
Those few that have their shit together are rare.
Essentially they’re the unicorns of the world, much like kids who grow up with both parents happily married, a loving pair of siblings and they house with a white picket fence.
Mental health has been given far more of the spotlight over these last few years, for good reason too.
It can play a large role in how a person progresses through life, yet many will not ever want to delve in to their own psyche, at least not until they’re ready, which might be never.
You’d be amazed how many would rather live shrouded by indifference than step out in to clarity.
Then we have people that will fall back on their mental health issues to keep themselves protected and firmly routed in the place they currently reside.
Stack all of this up and then try to throw in a body composition related goal such as fat loss or LBM gain and you’ve got quite the recipe for struggle.
While achieving goals is often simple, it’s rarely easy.
Take for example someone who gets dumped due to putting on a hefty amount of comfort weight in a relationship.
Once it happens the person decides to make a change, and often succeed.
The find a new partner, a better one, kinda.
Once again they begin putting their lost comfort weight back on and the cycle repeats, perhaps for their entire life and many won’t ever stop to ask why.
This is where knowing a little about your own mental pitfalls can be rather advantageous.
In regards to the example above, food is often linked to our emotions or rather a missed emotional need that isn’t being met, as such we get that need which our partner/significant other isn’t attending to filled by food.
One thing to remember is that when something is missing from our lives we will often find ways to plug that hole.
It can be in the form of food, fornication with people other than our other half, drugs or something else entirely.
Emotional leakage you might call it.
Then what we use to plug that hole is nothing more than a low quality band aid, which will of course come off and need replacing, I guess it’s back to the fridge then.
Being completely at peace with who you are is rare.
In fact some people never achieve it.
This can cause many to think there is something wrong with them, when that could’t be further from the truth because the majority of everyone else is int he exact same place.
Of course it doesn’t help that people life their ‘fantasy’ life on social media which gives off the image they’ve got all their shit together, which they haven’t.
If they had they wouldn’t be needed to share it every 5minutes via their mobile apps.
So, in regards to what my friend said, mental health is a massive factor because unless you’ve got the courage to step in to the unknown part of your own self, then even something as simple as losing some excess body fat can become an insurmountable task.
How well do you know yourself?
Ask yourself the questions that you haven’t yet dared to, it might just be the first step you need.