As silly as it seems, a lot of people won’t ask and for stupid reasons as well.
It is important to seek out others to support you.
Of course there are more than 3 reasons, however these are the most relevant.
1 – You can’t do it alone
Might seem obvious, yet so many will try and be a one-man band and tackle it all, then they wonder why everything is on mediocre at best.
The whole idea of you being a combination of the 5 people closest to you, its kinda like really true.
Give it some thought.
2 – Skill Gaps
As people we want to think we have all the skills we need, and this is sadly not the case for the majority of us, we need people we respect and trust at our side to fill in our gaps.
Take the PT business for example.
New people to the fray just about know how to train people, just about. In regards to business most have no clue on the following – Marketing, Taxes, Business Planning/Budget Management, the list can do on.
Yet even potentially knowing this they won’t seek out some guidance, often using money as the excuse, yes excuse because that is what you have business loans for to help you get your business up and running by hiring the people you NEED to help you succeed.
Many won’t, how do I know this?
I know more people who failed to stay in the business than actually stayed, and I see more people dropping out every day.
Ask for help, it will be worth it.
If your skill gaps are in say the knowledge of fat loss and that is your goal, then please hire one of the aforementioned PT’s.
3 – Being too scared to ask
This one is the easiest to understand.
People don’t want to seem weak, or like they can’t do something, I get it, it’s painful to admit you can’t do something and it makes you feel bad about yourself, however that is a mindset you’ve learned, you weren’t born with it.
Do you think a child feels bad when it’s learning to walk and keeps falling over?
No, it just keep doing what it needs to, and when it can’t do it alone it gets helps, either form a parent or something close enough to grab on to.
We are taught that asking for help is a bad thing from our earliest days in school.
Think about it, teachers would not give you the answer, they’d want to you find it for yourself, and while this is an incredibly useful skill it planted a seed that this is how we should do everything, and that is just not true.
In the working world if you don’t know something you must ask for help, less you completely balls up a project that could not only cost the company millions, it may also cost you your job.
Yet in knowing this we still fear asking for help.
To some the feel as if asking will put them below other people, they’d be someone to pity, subject to their benefactors benevolence, and whatever else you want to say.
This might be true, however once you’ve gotten the knowledge, or the skills and you know how to move forwards you many not need that specific person every again, however you do need what they know.
They weren’t wrong when they said that knowledge is power, because it is.
Better to ask a question and be thought a fool for a mere moment than stay silent and be branded foolish for life.
Give the above some thought and share your personal reasons below as to why you don’t, won’t ask of help.