Do you collect fitness badges of honour?
Many people do, they come in the form of being the one to work the hardest in class, staying in the gym the longest, running further than the person next to you on the treadmill and many other arbitrary things that do nothing to help you progress.
Picture this, you may have done it.
You go in to the gym, walk to a treadmill, across the gym you see someone else stepping on one directly opposite at the same time and in that moment your mind is made up, challenge accepted.
Both of you proceed to start running.
You look at their cadence trying to gauge if they’re going faster than you, if they are you will set yours just above theirs and come hell or high water you will not be getting of the treadmill first, even if it kills you.
The focus has taken over, you’re in the zone.
Perhaps you beat them easily and thus feel quite accomplished with yourself, maybe they crank up the speed and leave you in the dust, or by some miracle you both stop at the same time, who knows what will happen, so long as you can claim your badge, it doesn’t matter.
We touched on the mentality of ‘more is not better, it’s just more’ yesterday, it is something I truly wish for you to let go of because for the majority (which is where you fall if you’re reading this), it’s not worth it.
Each one of us wants to make god progress, more so we want to feel accomplished in something, to collect a trophy, even if only in our own mind.
Being the complex creatures we are it is common for us to seek a reward as recompense for all that we suffer.
We may even share the treadmill story with some friends or family members in the hope of awe and adulation from them, which we may get at the start, however it’s of a false variety because they don’t really care, after all, would you if the roles were reversed?
There is too much put on other people to fulfil our emotional needs, yes that is what badges of honour are when you delve in to them.
Why do I say this?
Simple, you will have someone you want to tell about your achievement, you want their praise, their approval, their emotional scraps and gentle nod that you’re worthy.
I get it, we all want that, however before obtaining that from other people can mean anything of substance we must first be able to self praise, to recognise that more often than not the only person who really cares is us.
Well, maybe your mum too, she’d always be proud, as such I suggest you go buy her flowers right this instant.
So back to the badges of honour, why do you collect them?
Is it for yourself or for someone else, sit and think about your answer because reflection is a key element in growth.
Now relate the badges (old, current and yet to collect) and how they will help you work towards your goal, do you have faith in achieving your goal and enough drive and self efficacy to get it or are you waiting for permission?
I know you will achieve your goal when you really want it, you’ve got everything it takes to do so, multiple badges or not, you will do it eventually.
Give the above some thought, go, reflect and have a productive day.